As Adult Bullies, Kory & Allison Read only share bits and pieces of the Landlord and Tenant Board Transcript they paid for and the recording of the hearing they got for Divisional Court I thought I would share its entirety here on this page.
On this page you will hear EVERYTHING, even Kory Read playing up to the people sitting there.
While I appreciate that Kory & Allison Read felt that the adjudicator that day should have proposed the hearing till theirs was scheduled for Oct 31, 2017, the adjudicator was not obligated to do so and neither were any of us obligated to let it.
What you don’t see on any of these pages is me shaking my head when the adjudicator asked about postponing till then and the “guess not” comment he said from seeing me shake my head. He asked, we responded with me shaking my head “no” to a postponement. I was allowed to do that and the adjudicator was allowed to proceed. Remember, we filed first for a hearing and paid for the privilege to have one. We were not obligated to wait, Kory Read shares the rules online but I guess he didn’t really read them as he would know that.
The reason on the paperwork given was the refusal of access, for which there are many emails written by Kory & Allison Read stating as such. Yes, I put in the harassment, which they didn’t find.
As Kory & Allison Read states at this hearing, which you can hear and read below, that they did refuse access and the adjudicator telling them they can’t do that.
This is why they were evicted but Kory & Allison Read don’t talk about that, they just talk about everything everyone else said and did, nothing about them. So, here it all is!
Over the past week I have taken the time to read every word written on those websites and I am very happy to say they no longer trigger my anxiety as they once did.
I believe the reason is due to the fact that I have accepted that Kory & Allison Read are what they are, Adult Bullies and will continue their Smear Campaign, as they do not care.
They don’t care what their written words do to people and their emotions, as they refuse to acknowledge human emotions.
They refer to me in these sites as a THING, not a person, as they don’t acknowledge any human emotions their smear campaign against me may bring. No matter how much evidence there is that show these actions like what they are doing, does have a serious effect on people.
I even have a copy of all my psychiatrist appointments, as I need to take them to NL with me, and it clearly states in there what my diagnoses are and what treatments I have been getting.
Kory & Allison Read refuse to acknowledge that their actions could effect anyone on a psychological level, and they constantly negate my mental health issues their actions have caused me.
They write their content as if I have no right to human emotions at all. We all know that is not possible.
As a human being, I have very strong emotions, especially when they have been compromised as they were over being bullied so severely over the past 4 years, online and in person when they still lived here.
All anyone really needs to do is read the content on these websites Kory & Allison Read own, as they have it written there, and you will come to understand.
Update: August 2, 2020
I went to the emergency yesterday, as I was having a really hard time with my anxiety, and couldn’t get it down. I spent a couple of hours sitting in a small room, and got to talk to a psychologist for over an hour and got medication a little stronger than what I have here, that also helped. I had a severe panic attack, first like that in a while, with hallucinations and all.
Some of it is my own fault for giving in and reading some of the newly typed crap written by Kory Read that he put online recently on my namesakes website, as I wrote on that page here.
While I was in the hospital talking to this doctor, I showed her some of the websites pages, so she could see what I was dealing with, and I could tell by her automatic facial expressions as she was reading, that it dismayed her to see such stuff online.
You can’t hide your automatic shock over reading such drivel, as laid out by Kory Read.
The images he creates of Stella Reddy on these pages with his written words are sickening to the soul. I have had people tell me that reading this garbage, actually makes them sick to their stomachs, it is that disgusting. It does for me. It isn’t so much the topic, but the way it is written and the words used, that paint such a nasty picture.
This is concrete evidence of why my anxiety is so high and won’t go down: I actually fear for my life with these sites online as they are. This doctor is also going to reach out to the Police Officer who took all my complaints over them over the past few months to see if there is anything she could do to help push it along for a charge, as there is major evidence of Stalking of people and places shown on these recent pages, with pictures!
Most people with anxiety issues don’t really know why they feel anxious, I do. I have a very real threat to my life, especially with the news in recent weeks and the evidence of hate crimes being done against others. Even a total stranger can see this is what Kory & Allison Read are trying to do!!
Just look at the words they are using, they are right out of other news articles, so they get caught in searches. They are trying to incite someone enough to do something against me, my husband, the property here, or some random tenant living here. The more they add to these pages, the more they show their own character and prove they are Adult Bullies intent on a Smear Campaign.
The past few weeks have been really hard on my anxiety. We all know moving is stressful, and moving provinces more so, especially for someone with anxiety issues anyway. One item, one day, at a time.
I thought it important to post some information on mental health issues that can be caused by being Bullied in the manner that I have been, in person and online, by Kory & Allison Read.
One thing that people with mental health problems, they spend so much time living in a fog, not being able to think straight, sometimes for days or months. I spent months in my pj’s, sitting around playing games on my tablet, not even able to decide what to have for dinner, let alone do any of the things Kory Read accuses me of on his sites. Yes, I had bouts of seeing things and hearing things that were not there. I became very paranoid, like I was being hunted. I still feel that way. Who wouldn’t with the crap online written about me by Kory & Allison Read?
You end up with memory issues, which is why the HRTO reply I did have some of the dates wrong. I already wrote about the breakdown I had and what caused me to lose my shit that day. It was the culmination of all the bullying within the building from Kory & Allison Read and other tenants here they got riled up and the pressure to stay quiet, so Kory Read wouldn’t get anything else he could twist around. Every word I say or write is taken by Kory Read and twisted with his brand of speculations. That is all his websites are about, the twists he can come up with over what was said and done by others. No, there is nothing there that they did to anyone, not even talk about trying to get a tenants’ association going to get the staff fired.
Yes, I already had PTSD for many years, since I had a house fire, and I was seriously hurt as a result. I ended up in the hospital for 3 months with 2 broken legs, smashed up knees, a busted face, and severe 3rd degree burns in some places from ash falling on me. I was in ICU for 5 weeks on a ventilator due to smoke inhalation. I spent 2 1/2 yrs in rehab learning to walk again and it took me 5 yrs of major counselling to get through the depression and PTSD, so I could function. I was also a single parent with 2 young children at the time that I was not able to look after myself so my brother lived with us and looked after them while I recovered. I also had to deal with many health issues like severe arthritis now in my knees that affect my mobility, and I had reoccurring cancer since 1999 with surgeries every couple of yrs to remove lesions. I was also diagnosed with cervical spinal stenosis in 2015, that has weakened my left side and I can’t drive much anymore as a result. I also developed a tendon tear in my left shoulder in 2018 that caused what they call a frozen shoulder where I couldn’t move it, and I am still not recovered fully yet but I do have about 80% use back in my left arm. I did all that typing for HRTO almost one handed as I couldn’t use my left hand.
I am not looking for sympathy, just understanding in that the past few yrs I have not been myself and I won’t be for a long time to come. My functioning of daily life is limited due to fear, anxiety and depression. I am no longer able to work, not just physically but mentally. I have no trust in people anymore. For the past couple of yrs just about every word I have said was twisted into some dark mess that I have no clue about, as my head just can’t go there.
I read the written words by Kory Read on his smearing websites, and I am just amazed and distressed at the depths he gets into and the twists he follows in thoughts, trying to pass these thoughts off as mine. I just can’t go there in my head, I have no clue where he gets this thinking from, as it surly isn’t me. I am just not capable to go that dark in thinking, as he laid out on these sites. Some of Kory Read’s speculations over other people are really twisted.
I am sure I have had enough readers to this site now for them to know that the way Kory Read has my character laid out on his smearing websites is all wrong. You can see from my writing here that I just don’t think the way he claims I do and I have not done anything he says I have. While people can’t know a person just from their writing, they can get enough of an idea of a person’s character to know that what one nasty person says on a bunch of websites, are all lies. That is all I need.
Posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is a natural emotional response to frightening or dangerous experiences that involve actual or threatened serious harm to oneself or others. However, for some people, the thoughts or memories of these events seriously affect their lives, long after any real danger has passed. These types of experiences are called “traumatic.”
Signs & Symptoms
PTSD usually appears within three months of the event, but sometimes symptoms may not appear for years. Common symptoms include:
re-experiencing the traumatic event over and over
having recurring nightmares
experiencing unwanted, disturbing memories of the event
acting or feeling as if the event is happening again
feeling upset when reminded of the event
staying away from activities, places or people that are reminders of the traumatic experience
avoiding friends and family
losing interest in activities that used to be enjoyable
experiencing difficulty having loving feelings
being unable to feel pleasure
having a hard time concentrating
getting angry easily
having trouble falling asleep or staying asleep
fearing harm from others
experiencing sudden attacks of dizziness, fast heartbeat or shortness of breath
having fears of dying.
Causes & Risk Factors
PTSD is a response to traumatic life events, such as car crashes, fires, bombings, rape, torture or seeing a family member, friend or other person harmed or killed. Being involved in a natural disaster, such as a hurricane, flood or earthquake, can also lead to PTSD.
Some people experience traumatic events and do not develop PTSD. Many factors play a part in whether a person will develop the disorder. Risk factors make a person more likely to get PTSD, whereas protective factors reduce the likelihood of developing the disorder.
Risk factors for PTSD include:
experiencing dangerous events and trauma in the past
having a history of mental health or substance use problems
feeling helplessness or extreme fear
having a small support system after the traumatic event
feeling guilt, shame or responsibility for the event or its outcome
experiencing additional stress after the event (e.g. loss of a loved one, pain and injury, loss of a job or home).
Stress is a normal response to situational pressures or demands, especially if they are perceived as threatening or dangerous. Stress is the result of brain chemicals, called hormones, surging through the body. These hormones make people sweat, breathe quicker, tense their muscles and prepare to take action. When this happens, a person’s built-in alarm system—their “fight-or-flight” response—becomes activated to protect them.
A certain amount of stress is a normal part of daily life. Small doses of stress help people meet deadlines, be prepared for presentations, be productive and arrive on time for important events. However, long-term stress can become harmful. When stress becomes overwhelming and prolonged, the risks for mental health problems and medical problems increase.
Long-term stress increases the risk of mental health problems such as anxiety and depression, substance use problems, sleep problems, pain and bodily complaints such as muscle tension. It also increases the risk of medical problems such as headaches, gastrointestinal problems, a weakened immune system, difficulty conceiving, high blood pressure, cardiovascular disease and stroke.
Signs & Symptoms
The signs and symptoms of stress may be cognitive (thinking-related), emotional, physical or behavioural. Their severity can range from mild to severe.
Cognitive symptoms include:
difficulty concentrating or thinking
negativity or lack of self-confidence
difficulty making decisions.
Emotional symptoms include:
feeling hopeless or helpless
feeling apprehensive, anxious or nervous
feeling unhappy or guilty
feeling agitated or unable to relax.
Physical symptoms include:
muscle tension or other physical pain or discomfort
nausea, diarrhea or vomiting
loss of sex drive
rapid heart rate
high blood pressure
Behavioural symptoms include:
changes in eating or sleeping patterns
nervous habits such as nail biting, teeth grinding or foot tapping
Stress often results if a person feels that there are high pressures or demands, that there is a threat to their well-being or that they don’t have enough resources to cope with the demands.
Common sources of stress include a person’s physical environment (e.g., noisy streets or an unsafe living space), relationships, work, life situations and major life changes. These situations can include negative events such as financial problems, relationship breakup, difficulties at work or school, injury, illness or death and grieving. However, situations leading to stress can also include positive changes, such as work promotions, getting married or buying a house.
Because stress is a normal part of life, everyone experiences it. However, the intensity, frequency and duration of stress will be different for each person. Numerous factors can make the experience of stress worse, such as when people:
have limited social support
have multiple stressors
have difficulty regulating or balancing their emotions
have difficulty tolerating uncertainty or distress
lack self-confidence or do not feel they can cope with the stressor
interpret the stressor negatively, so that they feel powerless, overwhelmed or helpless.
Clinical depression is a complex mood disorder caused by various factors, including genetic predisposition, personality, stress and brain chemistry.
Depression is much more than simple unhappiness.
Clinical depression, sometimes called major depression, is a complex mood disorder caused by various factors, including genetic predisposition, personality, stress and brain chemistry. While it can suddenly go into remission, depression is not something that people can “get over” by their own effort.
Some forms of depression may develop under unique circumstances:
Depression with psychosis: In some cases, depression may become so severe that a person loses touch with reality and experiences hallucinations (hearing voices or seeing people or objects that are not really there) or delusions (beliefs that have no basis in reality).
Signs & Symptoms
The main symptom of depression is a sad, despairing mood that:
is present most days and lasts most of the day
lasts for more than two weeks
impairs the person’s performance at work, at school or in social relationships.
Other symptoms of depression include:
changes in appetite and weight
loss of interest in work, hobbies, people or sex
withdrawal from family members and friends
feeling useless, hopeless, excessively guilty, pessimistic or having low self-esteem
agitation or feeling slowed down
trouble concentrating, remembering or making decisions
crying easily, or feeling like crying but being not able to
thoughts of suicide (which should always be taken seriously)
a loss of touch with reality, hearing voices (hallucinations) or having strange ideas (delusions).
Causes & Risk Factors
There is no single cause of depression.
Potential triggers of depression include:
genetic or family history of depression
psychological or emotional vulnerability to depression
biological factors such as imbalances in brain chemistry and in the endocrine/immune systems
Panic disorder refers to recurrent, unexpected panic attacks that involve stressful physical and cognitive symptoms, and behavioural signs.
Panic disorder refers to recurrent, unexpected panic attacks (e.g., heart palpitations, sweating, trembling) followed by at least one month of:
constant concern about having another panic attack or the consequences of a panic attack (e.g., having a heart attack), and/or
significant behaviour changes related to the attacks (e.g., avoiding exercise or places for fear of having a panic attack).
A panic attack is a sudden feeling of intense fear or discomfort that peaks within minutes. It includes stressful physical and cognitive symptoms as well as behavioural signs.
Signs & Symptoms
Physical symptoms include:
trembling or shaking
shortness of breath
feelings of choking
chest pain or discomfort
dizziness or nausea
sensations of heat or cold
numbness or tingling
feelings of unreality or being detached.
Cognitive symptoms include thoughts such as:
“I’m having a heart attack.”
“I’m losing control.”
“I’m going crazy.”
Behavioural signs include:
avoiding places where the person had anxiety symptoms in the past (e.g., a certain grocery store) or similar places (e.g., all grocery stores)
avoiding travel, malls, line-ups
avoiding strenuous activities (e.g., exercise).
Causes & Risk Factors
It is not known exactly why some people develop panic disorder, although research suggests that various factors may be involved. Like most mental health problems, panic disorder appears to be caused by a combination of biological and psychological factors and challenging life experiences, including:
Anxiety is cause for concern when symptoms are persistent and severe and cause distress to the person’s daily life.
Everyone experiences symptoms of anxiety, but they are generally occasional and short-lived, and do not cause problems. But when the cognitive, physical and behavioural symptoms of anxiety are persistent and severe, and anxiety causes distress in a person’s life to the point that it negatively affects his or her ability to work or study, socialize and manage daily tasks, it may be beyond the normal range.
People with anxiety disorders may feel anxious most of the time or for brief intense episodes, which may occur for no apparent reason. They may have anxious feelings that are so uncomfortable that they avoid daily routines and activities that might cause these feelings. Some people have occasional anxiety attacks so intense that they are terrified or immobilized.
People with anxiety disorders are usually aware of the irrational and excessive nature of their fears. When they come for treatment, many say, “I know my fears are unreasonable, but I just can’t seem to stop them.”
Signs & Symptoms
Each of these anxiety disorders is distinct in some ways, but they all share the same hallmark features:
irrational and excessive fear
apprehensive and tense feelings
difficulty managing daily tasks and/or distress related to these tasks.
Cognitive, behavioural and physical symptoms include:
anxious thoughts (e.g., “I’m losing control” )
anxious predictions (e.g., “I’m going to fumble my words and humiliate myself”)
anxious beliefs (e.g., “Only weak people get anxious”)
avoidance of feared situations (e.g., driving)
avoidance of activities that elicit sensations similar to those experienced when anxious (e.g., exercise)
subtle avoidances (behaviours that aim to distract the person, e.g., talking more during periods of anxiety)
safety behaviours (habits to minimize anxiety and feel “safer,” e.g., always having a cell phone on hand to call for help)
excessive physical reactions relative to the context (e.g., heart racing and feeling short of breath in response to being at the mall).
The physical symptoms of anxiety may be mistaken for symptoms of a physical illness, such as a heart attack.
Causes & Risk Factors
Like most mental health problems, anxiety disorders appear to be caused by a combination of biological factors, psychological factors and challenging life experiences, including:
The internet is littered with such posters as there are so many incidents of Smear Campaigns online like what Adult Bullies, Kory & Allison Read, have done that explains it all.
All you need to do is read their content to know what they are doing to total strangers, all because they are mad and spiteful over their eviction last year. Can’t you tell how angry and vicious they are becoming? Trying so hard to get his personal opinions out there, to influence others against me and my family. It is so obvious!
Their new content shows their obsession with me and my life, as they spend so much time speculating about it. If Kory & Allison Read prefer to spend their time speculating on me and what I am doing, go ahead. They don’t know me, so everything they do is speculation!
Kory & Allison Read will be held accountable in time, I have no doubt. All it takes is time for people to come to realize that they are full of shit and no absolutely nothing about the people they are bashing online, like they claim. Their lies get exposed for what they are, as the truth will not be denied and will come out. I am waiting for this day, as I know it is coming really soon!
In the meantime, Adult Bullies, Kory & Allison Read, can stew in their lack of knowledge and speculate all they want. The more lies they write about me in the content on their smearing websites, the better their downfall will be when the truth comes out!
The poster below tells its own story, doesn’t it? I came across it this morning and wanted to share. I was pretty angry yesterday when I wrote what I did below. I am trying so hard not to be bitter but it isn’t easy. I feel trapped and I either give in or I fight back. I am choosing to fight my way out as I refuse to give in and allow it to continue. It’s all about choice. My mental health and my future with my family, is more important to me than anyone or anything else and I need to find my way back. The only way I can do that is to cut all ties to this building and to Ontario. I am going home.
The effects of a Smear Campaign are terrible on the person being smeared in such a way as I have been online and in person. If you are an empath, as I have learned I am, you tend to take things to heart, even when you shouldn’t, so something like this situation will send you into a tailspin, not knowing which way is up anymore. The effect of Smear Campaigns usually end up in a mental breakdown, as your mind can’t handle the cruelty shown towards you by another.
Every day I am still amazed over the cruelty shown from one human to another.
I don’t understand how one stranger can say so many unproven lies about another. If this stranger needs to spend so many pages trying to convince another that what they say is true, then it obviously isn’t. The truth is simple and don’t need many pages before it trying to convince you. If what they claim is true, they also don’t need to compare these actions with another person and try to convince you they are the same. No two people are the same, no matter what anyone says.
Kory & Allison Read don’t know me, never did. We are not friends, nor family. I did not “confide” in them over anything I did, or do, they were tenants whom were evicted for their own actions and these Smear Campaign websites online is their revenge for this eviction. Simple truth, don’t you think?
I don’t need to compare their actions to another, nor compare them to anyone else to try and prove what I say. I just share the original documents I received where they lay out their many accusations against me and others so readers can see how these lies and exaggerations have expanded over time. I use the internet and the many articles and websites on Adult Bullies and their Smear Campaigns to show that this is what they are doing. It is so simple. Their words, from the beginning in 2016 till now is all I need to show what they are doing against me and my family.
The definition of a smear campaign is all I need, as these websites fit the description. The actions of Kory & Allison Read also fit the description of Adult Bullies, intent on trying to destroy their targets, as bullies do. If you read any of their content on these sites you will see the truth, they are smearing others, as an anonymous person no less, trying to incite hate towards these people with their words. Such cowards, hiding behind anonymity. Hiding their ownership over these sites is the first sign of an Adult Bully.
It was the same here within the building from October 2016 till they moved out on their own June 1, 2019. We received the first letter I share on its own page, as it is so important to this situation, where they say they met me when they came to pay rent in July, made some vague mention of some things they claim I said to them but don’t say what. They don’t even ask for the owners to look into it, nor do they ask to meet with anyone to discuss their concerns, as any normal person would. They just make bald statements and state they no longer wanted to deal with me and accuse me of various things in attempts to intimidate me into doing what they wanted from me. You can feel the aggression from them in this letter. It is in all their written words actually.
I tried very hard the past couple of years not to turn into a bitter resentful person over all this, but I didn’t succeed. I have a lot of resentment towards various people and agencies I dealt with over this situation. I am resigned but also so very angry over the lack of concerns over my feelings and the effects all this was having on me. It isn’t easy feeling like you are being ignored and your concerns are passed off, especially when you have proof of how it is all affecting you. Even when I no longer worked here, I was still being told to “stay quiet” not to interfere with the Appeal and give Adult Bullies Kory & Allison Read something else to use against us in Human Rights. Everyone was so concerned over not giving Kory & Allison Read anything else to use on their sites or with Human Rights that my rights were totally ignored and I ended up with a mental breakdown as a result.
It takes a lot to reach that point of going into psychosis. I still don’t remember those 2 days but I have flashes. The need to LEAVE was paramount, to get away from my bullies was so strong I was told I even packed up my stuff and was going to leave. That happened a few times over the past few years actually. I came really close to leaving my husband over all this, as he loves his job here and I felt guilty over asking him to give it up, so I can get some peace. So I stuck it out, hoping with the Appeal and the end of Human Rights would get them to give up their campaign against me. No such thing happened, as Kory & Allison Read’s resentment got too much, and they did more websites instead. They hated to lose their Appeal, they thought they had such a strong case, same with Human Rights. They thought they would win as they are so strongly opinionated, they thought their words over what others did would be enough. Like their opinions are all that matters, not any proof they could provide.
The current content on these sites I don’t need to read to see the “proof” they’re trying to provide comes from comparing my actions to other people or use info on a general website with a job description. There is no document, no recording, they have that show ME doing any of this stuff. They have nothing and no one to back them up, never did and never will, no matter how hard they try.
I have reached the end of my tolerance for all this mess, and I am determined to get my life back. I need peace in my head and I need peace in my life. I want to be able to go out and not fear for my life over someone recognizing me. The paranoia is terrible and the lack of faith and trust I have in people are also bad for me and my head. I don’t like feeling this way and I don’t care who knows it. Smear Campaigns purpose is to ruin people and isolate them from everyone and everything they love and to a point this has happened here. I still have a lot of support but I lost faith in believing it. I hate questioning everyone and their intentions.
I am determined to put an end to this Smear Campaign, one way or another. I have reached the point where I no longer care what anyone else wants or feels, they didn’t care about me and what I have been going through, so it is time to make everyone accountable to this mess and get my life back. I am so sick of being tied to this building and this company. I just worked here, I don’t own the building nor do I have any say in what happens here, never really did. Now I just exist here, as I no longer have a life, pandemic or not. I don’t go out, I am too afraid to, even sitting on my balcony, where it is in front, sets my anxiety off. I don’t need to live like this and I refuse to do so.
I am making plans and getting away from here, completely. Time has come for a new beginning, a fresh start. I had thought that when I moved in here, I would live here till we both retire and move back home. That was our plan, as it was an easy job here without all of Kory & Allison Read’s drama. Even some of the tenants who was on their side in the beginning have apologized to me since for their part and I forgave them, even my neighbours who were friends with them.
This coming week will be interesting, my anxiety is thru the roof, but in the end I am looking forward to the changes it will bring. I need my life back, and I am determined to get it.
Kory & Allison Read do not know me, never did. We are not family, nor friends. They were tenants whom were EVICTED, and this is their REVENGE for this eviction, A Smear Campaign
September 10, 2020
I will leave you with a thought for the next few weeks until I return to posting.
Kory & Allison Read spend so much time talking about building procedures, writing like they believe they are entitled to have a say in them.
Why did Kory & Allison Read feel comfortable doing that, especially as they are only renting and really had no say in the decison anyway?
Why is it that Kory & Allison Read feel comfortable with stating that the staff and owners take a paid parking spot away from a tenant, just because they don’t have a car there, just for them who wanted it free? If you are paying for a parking spot, it can’t be arbitrarily taken for someone else. That’s the point if renting a space, it is yours whether you have a car or not.
I will never advertise that I have a car, or 2, even 3. It’s no ones business.
All the building procedures Kory & Allison write about in such a condescending, and detailed, manner, are none of their business.
Don’t you just love how entitled they sound with their content? Expecting owners to take a paid spot away from another tenant just so that they could have it, for free no less, even though there is no free parking here?
Writing like its a crime I had 2 cars parked here, when it reality it’s none of their business.
They write like they have a say over BBQ in the building, when it is none of their business.
How entitled they are in all their content. Poor Kory & Allison Read, not getting special treatment that they want and expect, all because they say so.
Kory & Allison Read write in such a entitled way, you would think that every building procedure was made up just to “inconvenience” them, not for any other purpose.
Kory & Allison Read write their content like my sole purpose in life is to cause “inconvenience” to them. How entitled is that?
That is how entitled Kory Read believes they are, that all building procedures are in place just to cause “inconvenience” to them. They feel that they should not have to follow the rules like every one else.
Their content, and the way it is written, tries to imply that everything said and done was personal, when it is business.
The Poster above is very apt for this domain in my name, isn’t it?
Kory Read is trying too hard to show he is an expert on my life and how I should live it in the content on this domain.
Not only do he spend so much time trying to convince I had a job title I did not, so he can be right about something, he also tries to tell me who I should associate with online.
Why should I care about Kory Read’s personal speculations on other people when his speculations on my life is so wrong? Talk about GOSSIP!
Tell me, Kory Read, why do you care who I associate with online?
You still didn’t answer my question, who made you judge, jury, and executioner of myself and others? Try not to deflect it at someone else… 🙂
I did manage to read most of this site the past few days and I must say, Kory & Allison Read have a wild imagination! How they can take something I wrote and twist it with their assumptions is really crazy. I am blown away by the detail they go into. It makes seeing “administrator” at the top all the more absurd, as the writer of such content to hide away.
Does anyone really wonder why I went off the rails for so long, once you see the garbage they write about me online? I am only human after all.
Seeing such nasty bullying words online about your character can be traumatizing. Kory Read don’t know me, and he can spend as many pages as he wants trying to convince people otherwise, it still won’t work.
Of course, Kory & Allison Read don’t see any of that, they are cruel human beings and have no clue what their actions do to the person they write about. If you do manage to read any of their crap, put your name where mine is and you will get an idea of what I go through at the hands of these people.
Kory & Allison Read are not doctors so for them to spend so much time trying to convince people I had no mental health issues is just another way to try and discredit me and take away any of their own blame for the state I got into mentally.
Kory & Allison Read refuse to acknowledge that their actions of posting such websites online with such nasty content can cause severe mental health issues for the person being smeared. They refuse to take any responsibility for what their content online does to anyone. Not to mention the garbage I got from Human Rights process!
Which is why they refuse to put their names on these sites, as they know what they are doing is WRONG and deceitful.
Yep, I am now going to call out Kory & Allison Read!
I DARE Kory & Allison Read to put their names on these sites!! Put your name on there, OWN your WRITTEN words about other people.
I DARE Kory & Allison Read to make it possible for comments on their sites and for people to contact them. Give people a way for them to contact you about your garbage online.
They will never do that, as they are scared.
Kory & Allison Read are total hypocrites! They spend so much time on their websites going on about other peoples accountability, yet refuse to accept their own, the main being ownership of these sites!
BBQ’s… I am sorry this topic is such a waste as Kory Read proves with this page what an idiot he is, as he assumes that all BBQ must be propane, as he don’t acknowledge that there are different types out there. I just think that Kory Read is once again ignoring the very obvious, as it don’t fit his narrative!
I have told Kory & Allison Read so many times that the BBQ my sister has is the Electric type!! It actually plugs in and do not use propane. There are a few here like that and I even got one now myself!
Does anyone really think I am dumb enough to allow my own sister to move in and use a propane BBQ when other tenants could not use them?
Does Kory Read really expect people to believe that just because someone has a BBQ on their balcony here, that he went out of his way to snitch pictures of and share online, that they are ALL propane?
Do Kory Read know if they were propane, does he have evidence they are being used? All he did was take pictures of people’s balconies and ASSUME they are all propane, as you don’t see any tanks, do you? Nor do you see any of them being used.
Once again speculations by Kory & Allison Read that they want people to accept as the truth.
When I stated Kory & Allison Read were the only ones with a BBQ, it was true, as they were the only ones using a propane BBQ.
Maybe I should have been more specific in my statements and treat all the tenants like children, and talk as if they didn’t have a clue about the many different shapes, makes, and sizes of BBQ’s. I thought the specifics I spoke of on PROPANE BBQ’s would be enough. I guess I should have added propane in front of BBQ all the time.
This website is in my name, as Kory & Allison Read took it to use for this site as a deliberate act. Since this site was first posted online in April 2019, the content has changed a few times, even moved hosting companies and domain providers. Each time complaints got it knocked down a bit, it showed up somewhere else with new content. Such determination. Why is that I wonder?
“When last checked Newfoundland still had the internet and people could still search up individuals by names and their history. Just in case the racist Stella Reddy and her enabling husband think they can hide from the internet, their racist and anti-black behavior and these websites.“
I copied the above from www.stellareddy.com and yes, Kory Read is correct, there is internet in Newfoundland but one big difference, I have no fear of living there, not even with Kory & Allison Read’s Smear Campaign online, as I know the speculations on my life as written on these sites, is not accepted there. I did nothing wrong.
“Instead they are forced to move due to their own actions and inability to recognize their own faults and misdeeds.“
Another quote above showing Kory Read’s inability to accept responsibility for anything he does. Talk about projection!
It is Kory & Allison Read actions that is forcing us to move, for the very obvious smearing websites online. Not only is the content made up of lies, rumours, exaggeration, and total speculations over every aspect of my life that has severe effects on my mental health, their instigating content puts a real target on my back. With these very deliberate actions, they are making it unsafe for me to stay. Yes, it is Kory & Allison Read’s fault I don’t feel safe to stay living here and have my husband continue working here.
What does Kory & Allison Read really think these continual accusations and false allegations does to the psyche of the person being attacked in such a way as they are doing, and have done, over such a long period of time?
Kory Read shares pictures, addresses, and telephone numbers, even a map, showing where I live.
Now who in their right minds would continue to live under such a threat that they have created for us?
How is it that Kory Read does not see that these hateful websites of his is what is driving us to move? Does he really think we would want to have any “ BIG OLD RETIREMENT PARTY” at any point with such hateful websites online that they created?
It is enough that their Adult Bullying and Smear Campaigns contributed to my mental breakdown 2 yrs ago, and I had to quit, and it still continues to affect my mental health.
Kory & Allison Read are delusional to think their actions are not at fault. It is obvious when you read just some of their written content on that site their intent is to hurt me, mentally and physically. It is the purpose of a Smear Campaign after all!
Kory & Allison Read made the choice to post such content online bashing me and anyone to do with me, yet now that it is being shown that these actions contributed to my mental health problems, have created a real serious threat to my physical safety enough to drive me away from our home and his job, they are trying to claim I am a fake and faking my issues. “Stella Reddy is a fake” and “And the pattern of her lying only continues with her conveniently fabricate PTSD“. Any excuse to get out of being responsible for their actions! Is Kory Read or Allison Read a doctor?
“And she is beginning held accountable for her actions and having to answers for her behavior.”
I have no idea why Kory Read wrote this here. If I had done anything wrong, even illegal, there would be some evidence of it and it would have come out by now. It has been almost 4 yrs here and I worked in the industry for 18 yrs. Besides, if there is anything I should be accountable for in any of my actions, it would have come out in their Human Rights complaints. Instead, Kory & Allison Read wasted 19 months of my mental health, and every ones time, for nothing, as they ignored the teleconference and didn’t call in so the applications were dismissed as abandoned. Why do that if they were so sure of what they accuse me of?
So what is it again I need to be held accountable for? I did nothing wrong, no matter Kory Read speculates in his word salad content on these sites. I know it and so do they.
All you need to do is meet me to know that Kory & Allison Read are lying. You can’t judge someone based on the words of another, no matter how strong their opinions.
All the racism allegations are a fabrication, made up from Kory Read’s nasty mind when they were being forced to allow entry to the apartment when they didn’t want to do so!! You can see and hear Kory Read’s own words to that effect! They were very persistent that NO ONE gets into the apartment alone, no matter the reason. It was these words at the LTB in Sept 2016 that caused their eviction.
Kory Read brought all this on themselves with the words below that they spoke. It was these actions of refusing access that broke the rules of apartment living and they were made to move out.
These lies were elaborated upon since Kory & Allison Read were taken to the Landlord and Tenant Board for the refusing of access. They had a whole year to make up stories to try and throw the spotlight onto me instead of their own actions. Ever since then, their stories keep changing, and they keep adding even more accusations! Talk about obvious!
Kory & Allison Read made complaints about me to every agency they could and each time they were shot down. What does that tell you?
Now, as they lost all their legal actions against me, they decided to go the public route and create and post these websites online bashing my character, and recently going after other family, and even some random stranger online who liked and commented on this site. What makes them think they actually have any influence over the general public when they had no influence over the legal actions they were part of? Did they not LOSE them all?
The 3 pages to this post I shared above is some rant by Kory Read. So many speculations there, like :
Let us note that NO ONE is sitting in Stella Reddy’s soon to be vacant apartment, holding a gun to her head, making her type this racist material and putting it online.
Let us note that NO ONE is sitting in Stella Reddy’s soon to be vacant apartment, holding a gun to her head making her link a White Pride raiocst’s website to her own blog.
And NO ONE is sitting in Stella Reddy’s soon to be vacant apartment, holding a gun to her head making her look for “support” and advice from a extremely proud White Pride couple to post on her own blog.
Stella Reddy does this of her OWN free will and desire to try and gain followers on her blog and social media.
Now lets put this in perspective and switch it around here and show the real truth of all this.
Kory Read posted www.859kennedyroad.com on November 2, 2017 where they first Smear myself and the property owners with their allegations. Kory & Allison Read started this situation with their refusal of access, and they continued it ever since first in the building with other tenants and then online. I wouldn’t need to be looking for support over the Adult Bullying and Smear Campaigns against me if Kory & Allison Read didn’t start it in the first place!! What is wrong with support, no matter where it comes from, if it helps you? What, I am not allowed to seek support for this very terrible thing I experienced because Kory Read has a problem with it?
My website showed up here March 12, 2020 where I tell the truth and show the evidence, from the beginning that do not include the mess Kory Read has turned it into now. As you can make and post websites, so can I. As you put whatever you want on your sites, so can I. Kory Read is such a hypocrite and these actions point it out so clearly!
Let us note that NO ONE is sitting in Kory Read’s soon to be vacant apartment, holding a gun to his head, making him type this smearing material and putting it online.
Let us note that NO ONE is sitting in Kory Read’s soon to be vacant apartment, holding a gun to his head, making him take my words from my website to use on his own blog.
And NO ONE is sitting in Kory Read’s soon to be vacant apartment, holding a gun to his head making him look for “support” and advice from total strangers for his many lies about Stella Reddy by posting such content online in VARIOUS websites.
Kory Read does this of his OWN free will and desire to try and gain followers on his blog and social media. Kory Read does this of his OWN free will in his attempts to news jack with the current news for more exposure. as shown by Kory Read’s own words. “And this folks is what systematic racism looks like!” as he has written on the last page of https://sjtomemberkevinlundy.com/part-nineteen/
Quid Pro Quo, as they say. This is just more examples of Kory & Allison Read hypocrisy! Do as I say, not as I do!!
Are Kory & Allison Read now going to go after, judge, and tear down, anyone who likes and comments on my site, even random strangers? Such venom against total strangers on this site. I would really like to know who make Kory & Allison Read judge, jury, and executioners, of anyone. They write their content as if only their opinions matter and their versions are the truth. It is only an opinion.
Kory Read is such a mind-reader, as he knows exactly what others are doing in their lives hey? He should go on the road and make some money with that one! Kory Read claims here that we “can not afford to pay the rent to live there anymore“. What makes him think we paid rent, anywhere, in all our years of working in apartment buildings?
Don’t Kory Read know that part of the benefits we got in this job did include an apartment, RENT FREE? Even utilities were paid for! We even got FREE cable!! Sure, the actual funds we received wasn’t equal to other jobs, but when you factor in free rent, utilities if not included in the rents of the building, and even free cable, we actually do really well! I never complained, why would I with all the benefits I had in my career? We even got health benefits!! I lived where I worked, how much easier can you get than that? I am not complaining over salaries I got, not even now. We always had what we needed and got to go places and do things.
The grey Nissan that Kory Read complains about I had in one of the 2 parking spots I had here, also free, I bought brand new and paid off! The other car I had was a gift from family when they left the province. I miss driving, but due to the Cervical Stenosis I can’t drive much anymore. The neck turns are terrible after a while. As I said before, Kory & Allison Read have no clue about my life. How could they? They are strangers to me.
“Either way it appears that the racist Stella Reddy and her enabling husband are on the move due to something the owners have done. And they are pissed off about it. Threatening to now get the Ontario Health And Safety after them!”
This sentence above highlights Kory & Allison Read’s speculations, trying to make it sound they know what is going on.
Yes, I called Ontario Health and Safety, and filed a complaint, on Kory & Allison Read! This is so an investigation can be done about the Adult Bullying and obvious Smear Campaign online instigated by them against me and other family members, even the owners! Even other tenants living here could be affected by the target Kory & Allison placed on me and the property. I had a nice chat, was told what could be done, and it will be done. Even my sister can file a complaint, as she is also named on these sites.
In the meantime, my hubby is still working here, I am still living here. I am making plans for our move, and I am starting to get excited about it all. My nerves are bad, I cry all the time, jump at the littlest thing, but I am excited about my future and so looking forward to getting peace of mind at home on the Rock!
This Article below was the one that made the “light bulb” moment for me and what I was going through. It was given to me by someone in one of the groups I did last year to help with anxiety and social situations. By this point I was so scared of being out in public that I would throw up even with the thought of leaving my apt. Not only was I afraid of verbal attacks, I was also at this point afraid of physical attacks from the smearing websites online. That fear is not easy to deal with but this article did help quite a bit.
It took reading it a few times, but I saw the actions of my Bullies, Kory & Allison Read, in this article and I thought I would share it so you can see it too.
Narcissists Write The Story And They Always Play The Victim
People with narcissistic tendencies also have destructive social tendencies that impact everyone around them. If you have these types of people around you, conflict will always follow them and will always impact, you.
Narcissists are some of the most toxic people around and they always play the victim and manipulate everyone around them.
The real world just doesn’t exist for them as reality means facing the truth and that is something they simply can’t do.
To cope with life, they delude themselves that their own reality is the real one and real life as we know it doesn’t exist.
Should the ‘real reality’ be forced upon them the wild stories they come out with to try and manipulate and compensate can be at best extreme.
First the lies:
Healthy, normal mindful people deal with life as it unfolds and face what life challenges them with and they take responsibility for their actions.
Narcissists are incapable of doing this. They will blame everyone one else for what is wrong in life, it is never their fault.
Narcissists have this deep need to be right about everything, and this is where the wild stories and lies come into play. They single out people who they know will listen and believe what they say and accept ‘their version of the truth’ and they will use their loyalty to feed their lies.
As they are the author of the story, they cast themselves as the good person, the one who fights for everyone, when the reality is they are the ones causing the wrongdoing and inflicting pain on their victims.
Then comes projection:
Narcissists always use projection, its how they manipulate situations. A great example of this is they will tell you someone has been spreading lies about them, when you hear that, know that for sure it’s the narcissists who have done this not the person they have claimed is doing so.
They will claim a loved one has been cheating on them, nope not the case. What has happened is the narcissist has cheated but is lying by saying the loved one has.
They project so that they can plant the first seeds of doubts and lies. They love playing the wronged loved one and you will often hear them say “Look what they have done to me, all I did was love them”.
When dealing with a narcissist it is wise to reverse what they tell you back onto them, that way you will be getting some semblance of truth.
Building the story is next:
The narcissist always will feed you bits of their story at their own pace and a time of their choosing. It is almost like watching a movie unfold before you and you won’t get to see the whole story until the last few minutes, they do this for dramatic effect and to gain your sympathy.
They are bullies, it’s as simple as that! They seek out victims that can be manipulated and bullied into what they want. Should a victim fight back them they step up their game plan and they are very dangerous people.
The story will then be that the victim bullied the narcissist, made their life a living hell, they will deny any aggressive behavior, they will often say the victim is being too sensitive, telling lies and are attention seeking, does any of this sound familiar?
Character assassination the end is in sight:
Should the lies and projection fail and in effect the victim at this stage has beaten the narcissist, then the narcissist will up their game plan.
The victim is no longer under the narcissist’s control and they hate that, so they will commence their smear campaign, they often use slander, triangulation and character assassination.
It is at this time that the wildest of stories are told, family and friends can receive emails, text messages from the narcissist giving intimate details about you, some have even been known to post online or send to friends and relatives intimate pictures, photoshop their victims image onto porn sites and movies, thankfully the law has tightened up with regards to this and prosecutions but its too late the damage has been done.
The patterns: All narcissists act this way, it’s a case of same way, different story. Once you’ve encountered a narcissist and survived you can tell one very easily, but if you should get taken in again, don’t blame yourself they are masters of their craft.
Narcissist can and do slip through the barriers, if that happens rebuild your barriers, set new boundaries and move on with your head held high, you have done nothing wrong.
I am honored to know many survivors of these toxic people, some have recovered and like myself work on helping survivors, others are still working on their recovery.
Just know there are more of us out here than you think, look for us, we will be the ones shining the beacon of light, showing you the way to hope and recovery.
Defeating the Narcissist
So if conventional wisdom is not serving us or society well, what should we be doing to defeat narcissists? First of all we need to abandon the notion that there is a “right” thing to do. There isn’t one – only some solutions that are less bad than others. And of these, doing nothing can be the worst of all options. Quite what represents the optimal solution in your instance will depend on a wide array of factors, some known, others perhaps unclear:
You need to be in a position of relative safety – both physical and emotional safety – before you should do anything proactive.
You should act from positions of power and legitimacy – financial, legal, psychological and moral.
You need to ensure that other potential victims and people at risk are also protected. This is especially the case when you have kids jointly in the mix. Very often doing something proactively to defeat the narcissist may cause a short term spike in discomfort (and possibly danger) to children, but to the benefit of their longer term safety and security. This has to be balanced with the risk of doing nothing – that enables a narcissist to manipulate, control and abuse their own children, especially as weapons with which they attack the normal loving parent, ad infinitum.
It will help enormously if you can recruit friends to your cause – not least because the sad reality is that there are many toxic types out there, and narcs of a feather often flock together. By taking on a narc, and shining a light on their shady shit, you are also shining a light on the clique – and that can be very threatening to the flying monkeys and enablers. It is for this reason that the smear campaign picks up pace so quickly. Be prepared to take on more than just your narc.
Strategies to defeat Narcs
So depending on your specific situation, the options available to you will include some blend of the following:
Expose them. Combat their lies with your truth. Use channels that are available and work – one-on-one conversations, letters/email/texts, posts to social media. Be prepared to hold yourself fully accountable with people (and in writing), thereby challenging the lies told by the narc and that they cannot substantiate. Don’t make allegations that you may not be able to substantiate or that they could sue you for – but you are allowed to hold an opinion, ask questions, present facts and allow other people to make judgements. Be bold, be loud.
Use legal tools to hold them to account. Whilst many jurisdictions do not understand NPD at all, most do understand the individual forms of abuse that make up narcissistic abuse. Don’t try to use the catch-all “narcissistic abuse” moniker though – it will backfire. Go after every form of abuse that you can provide evidence for and that will appear sufficiently weighty (abuse such as gaslighting is very damaging indeed, but whilst it is major to you it can appear petty to law enforcement and the legal system who just don’t get it).
Fight fire with fire. Become an Empath Supernova for a while. Counter their abuse with a psychological campaign that returns their “kindness”. Understand that it is tricky to defeat a narc when restrained by your high morals, and that in order to battle a just and needed war, you might have to take your gloves off and fight dirty for a while. Learn their psychological tactics that they employ to mindfuck you – and then use them back. As they smear you with lies, counter their campaign with a louder one of truth. Shine a light into their dark places and force them out of the shadows. Gaslight, bait-and-trap, and word salad them back. Humiliate and embarrass them. Force them to make errors and reveal the monster within.
Recruit allies. Your friends and family may be the first port of call, but also consider joining forces with other victims (eg whom you’ve met online) and that might join you in your battle – especially on social media. Spar off each other to create some noise and raise the profile of NPD.
Don’t underestimate you strength. You’ve been to hell and back – and survived. The old adage, what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, has never been truer than in your case now.
Don’t overestimate the narcopath’s strengths. They put on a good show – Dr Jekyll reigning supreme, manipulating like hell, lying like crazy (and seemingly getting away with it). But their real self, the authentic Mr Hyde, is the polar opposite – deeply self-loathing, awash with insecurities, riddled with vulnerabilities, jealous of so much, terrified of the truth about themselves. Use all of these to your advantage. Get them to compromise by managing them by consequence – be badass and don’t take the pressure off until you have got what you deserve as fair.
Understand the concept of the balance of evil. Sometimes in life, we have to do something bad in order to prevent something worse. Cutting off someone’s leg is bad. It might be a necessity if that leg has gangrene and is going to kill it’s owner. And so it is with Narcissistic Abuse. Sometimes you have to take drastic action is order to save the day. Don’t be deterred from rising to the occasion.
It should also be noted the impact of holding abusers to account on the victims. We are hard-programmed to defeat threats to our sanity and lives. We need to resolve trauma in order to mitigate Complex-PTSD, and in turn avoid life-threatening auto-immune diseases later on in life. We are programmed to belief and champion a system of justice (that in turn has systems of punishment, correction and dissuasion). These are not well-served by policies of forget and forgive. Moreover, you do no service to others by running away from problems. You do act as an exemplary role model in tackling evil head-on and holdings perpetrators of abuse to account.
Below I will show the email I received that was my breaking point and caused me to have a mental breakdown on July 4, 2018, where I went into psychosis and had varying hallucinations that come with it. I have not been the same since this day.
Once you read the below, you may understand why as this action was totally disrespectful and deliberately done to embarrass and humiliate me by sharing very personal information they had no business sharing with anyone. This is also a perfect example that shows they do not respect boundaries and show how triangulation works. There are various examples of this in their written documents I have!
To give you some perspective, I had already been part of bullying and smearing of my character since August 2016, with various allegations by Kory & Allison Read with the other tenants living in the building. I had to sit in the office and listen to Kory Read standing in the lobby to smear me to everyone who walked in the door, even prospective tenants coming to see a vacant apt. I had so many tenants come to me to tell me they are “out to get me”. I even had prospective tenants ask me about the website, 859kennedyroad, as they saw it when researching the building. But if you notice, they came anyway! Most didn’t believe any of the content on there, especially after meeting me! It was still hard to hear and go through.
I had also just gotten the Human Rights applications against me with the 107 pages of “Statement of Facts” on June 4, 2018, that went from June 2015, when Allison Read moved in with her children, to June 2, 2018. These documents I later labelled “Statement of Suppositions” were filled with the various personal allegations of racism and discrimination levelled against myself and the property owners. It was only later they added my husband to the mix. These papers are just personal opinions of Kory & Allison Read, just like the rest of their documents, as there is no substance. All hearsay, which is why HRTO stated they had to provide proof in March 2019, as they didn’t so far in any of this. There is also a lot of evidence in these papers of their lack of respecting boundaries, especially with other tenants living here, as they used their info without permission once again.
I don’t think they have any idea what it means to respect anyone else’s boundaries.
Kory & Allison Read deliberately emailed the property owners about a personal issue that had nothing to do with the owners nor the company, and as you will see by the dates below, they sent this email almost a month after receiving them from me. Why did they wait, if it wasn’t strategic to them? The property owners knew about the application I filed but wasn’t aware of details.
Kory & Allison Read made it their business to let the property owners know these facts by sharing the emails I sent to HRTO, and a personal letter to them, just after they found out it was dismissed. This is what sent me off the rails.
It was not their place to do this. Kory & Allison Read had no business sending this email to the property owners. They deliberately made a personal issue very public to people who had no reason nor business to know these details. It was sent from my personal email address and had very personal issues within it that my employers had no business in knowing that was addressed to Human Rights and to them personally. Why else do this very deliberate act if not to “get to me” and try for another reaction they could use against me, which was exactly what they did! It sent me into a breakdown where I went crazy and lost 2 days I will never remember and it changed me, completely. I lost myself for a long time after this and it was hard to get back to myself.
Even after I quit my position here, I was still getting emails from Kory & Allison Read over work issues in my personal email address. What is with that, if not to bug me?
What would this action do to you?
This was the last straw after all the many months of stress, listening to Kory & Allison Read bash me every chance they had, especially within earshot and it wasn’t the first email like that they sent out to people, even my employers. I have varying emails with the same message, Kory & Allison Read trying to bring others into the mix in attempts to control me by humiliating me with other people. I was being bullied for many months before this. This action, upon personal reflection, now tells me that Kory & Allison Read did these things in the hopes that the property owners would get so fed up with having to deal with it all, that they would fire me. It has always been their intention, to see me move out like they had to do. They wanted me to either “have a heart attack or commit suicide” so they could get away from this mess.
All of Kory & Allison Read’s websites have content within that he hopes will create pressure on the property owners to fire my husband and make us move out. Kory & Allison Read are hoping that these websites will embarrass and humiliate the property owners so badly with all the negative content within about them and their business that they will try to get rid of us to get away from the situation. Maybe they should do some research online about employment and protections for employees.
“In Ontario, the employer has a legal duty to make the workplace safe, so if there is any indication of behavior that would make the workplace unsafe, the employer must address it,”
Little did they know, I quit my job that day and will never be the person I was back then. I will never work again and am now retired. I am determined to continue living here until my husband can retire, which is still many years away. I am stubborn that way… I refuse to give in to Bullies who are determined to try and drive me away from my home to get away from the target on my back. I prefer to fight back instead with this website.
How would you feel if a stranger emailed personal information to your boss about a very personal situation you were going through? Don’t you think there should be some boundaries Tenants should not cross with building staff?
What do you think was the intention behind Kory & Allison Read sending these emails to my bosses?
Please find attached 2 files that I received on Monday June 4, 2018, concerning a filing to your agency from the same people I filed my claim about, Allison and Kory Read. I would like to add these papers as evidence to my file, File #2017-08-24-17-30-08948. The 107 pages in the statement of facts layout all the harassment, discrimination, actions, and complete lies, of these tenants Allison and Kory Read of 303-859Kennedy Rd. They state the application was about me but it starts outwith previous building staff, including their names and there are other various privacy breaches with other tenants in these papers, no names but unit numbers are there and it has their parking spaces. They have twisted the facts, omitted important regulations and facts, made assumptions about every action I have taken. Reading these papers and their personal opinions over everything I do, you can easily tell they have a personal vendetta against me and the property owners. These papers prove my case as with the detail in here about when the alleged meeting at some restaurant on Eglington Rd where the supposedly racist comments came from me, the evidence I submitted with the complaint shows
I was never in that place at all nor that area around any time in June 2016, as it is not possible to be in 2 cities the same time. As this alleged meeting is the basis of their whole complaint of racism against the evidence I submitted shows that it never happened, and as such is considered harassment. I don’t think they really thought about what they were doing, as with receipts, bank statements, google timeline activity, witnesses of my big family, it is easily proven where I was at any given time in the month of June 2016 when this meeting supposedly took place.I am sure that’s why they didn’t pick an actual date, as I could show where I was on that day as well. They have no idea where I was before I moved in here and started working here.
As you will see in the Stella Reddy HTRO application, under the question of if these facts were part of another application this person says no, but there are 2 applications ongoing now with various agencies. First, it was my complaint, file number above that I submitted in August 2017 and these tenants filed a appeal with Divisional Court for the eviction for refusal of access they received from the landlord and tenant board in October 2017., which is still before the court and should be heard sometime in Oct 2018.
Thank you for your time and if you require anything else please let me
Word Document – This is a letter from me, personally, not from the company. I am really tired of reading the crap you write as it actually makes me physically sick, it is so twisted. I probably shouldn’t even be writing this but I want you to know that I have no intention of backing down and I will stand up for myself against your harassment and the more you send me the more evidence I have against you. You have just given me the evidence to prove my own case of harassment, as these papers are full of it. Those papers are not a statement of facts, it’s mostly your own personal opinions, hearsay, and speculations on what YOU think, and they are also full of your own discriminations and prejudices as well as opinions on how we should operate the building. It’s your words in there and cannot be denied or retracted. Did you even get anyone else to read those papers before you submitted them? I couldn’t even finish reading it all, and still haven’t read it all, just sent them to my lawyer and to Human Rights. And you say I am racist and show discrimination? What do you think you have in these papers? Do you even know what harassment is? These writings are a perfect example of harassment as described below.
Definition of Harassment
Under the Policy on Harassment Prevention and Resolution, harassment is
improper conduct by an individual, that is directed at and offensive to another individual in the workplace, including at any event or any location related to work, and that the individual knew or ought reasonably to have known would cause offence or harm. It comprises objectionable act(s), comment(s) or display(s) that demean, belittle, or cause personal humiliation or embarrassment, and any act of intimidation or threat. It also includes harassment within the meaning of the Canadian Human Rights Act (i.e. based on race, national or ethnic origin, colour, religion, age, sex, sexual orientation, marital status, family status, disability and pardoned conviction).
More specifically, harassment is normally a series of incidents but can be one severe incident which has a lasting impact on the individual.
Essentially, the definition of harassment means that more than one actor event is needed in order to constitute harassment and that taken individually, this act or event need not constitute harassment. It is the repetition that generates harassment. In other words, harassment consists of repeated and persistent behaviours towards an individual to torment, undermine, frustrate or provoke a reaction from that person. Itis a behaviour that with persistence, pressures, frightens, intimidates or incapacitates another person. Each behaviour viewed individually may seem inoffensive; it is the synergy and repetitive characteristic of the behaviours that produce harmful effects.
However, one single incident can constitute harassment when it is demonstrated that it is severe and has a significant and lasting impact on the complainant.
Each and every time you go against the rules of the ResidentialTenancies Act, the Landlord and Tenant Board, including even the property rules, it reflects badly on you and will be used against you. By defying all these rules all it does is tell people that you believe the rules do not apply to you and that you feel you can do what you want in the property. All the emails, letters, posts on Facebook and the website you did, withholding rent, defying the parking rules, making threats that you will deduct rent over parking tickets, sharing personal information about other tenants on paper, even without names, as well as various others including what got you evicted, is breaking the rules, not only of the RTA but also of Privacy Act and Human Rights. You even added in there your harassment of another tenant in trying to get him to sign something for you! Where in that letter do I say I got a complaint or spoke to tenants? You have broken so many rules it’s hard to keep track. Do you really think doing these things are helping you? Do you really think anyone who reads just that 107-page papers you sent the other day will expect the property owners to allow you to stay in a building where you have no respect for the rules, other tenants, the staff, or them? Based on those papers alone no one will expect that you are allowed to stay in this building with property owners where the relationship is so bad. All the harassment you throw out about the staff and owners does not show any willingness to work with them in order to be able to stay either. You can complain and make accusations about staff throwing away keys, illegal notices, letters, complaints about forms, parking spots that OTHER tenants have, the current cost of rents and parking all you want, it is not going to make any difference because in the end, you do not have the right to tell the owners how the building should be run and it is more harassment. Where is your proof that we did these things? Don’t you think that if my Forms were illegal would have gotten you evicted? If all these things we are doing to manage this property is so illegal, why is it that we are here still doing it 2 years later? Don’t you think that if I was doing wrong things it would have been exposed by now? Most of the complaints in those papers are about the operation of the property, speculations and suppositions on what YOU think, which is hearsay, and the bottom line is that you have no say in that, so complaining about it is a waste of everyone’s time. You try so hard to prove I am doing illegal things, it just points out your own wrongdoing instead and makes you look culpable.
The adjudicator, whom you called “ghetto” in these papers, which is discrimination, took a week to complete the eviction order as he took his time, but in the end, he knew the tenant/landlord relationship had deteriorated to the point where it can no longer be fixed, which is reasonable conclusion to come too after hearing everything, and as a result, you and your family were evicted based on the fact that you both were so vehement in your refusals of entry for repairs. He states that in the order and this is why he chose the eviction. Copied and pasted below directly from the order. These are the facts and cannot be changed. There was no bias, no one will give a shit what I said out of frustration over your lies, as in the end, it was what you did that got you evicted! My reaction is a normal human reaction to hearing details of a lie you perpetuated to base your accusations on and as you seem to be continually keeping it up, without even proof that this even happened, is harassment as defined by the Human Rights. As he stated in the lines below, you both were so vehement in your refusal to cooperate with access and it is this continued vehemence that got you evicted. I am sure the hearing recording as well as the transcript of the hearing, will show this vehemence from both of you. You and your family were evicted based on your own actions! As you still continue to be so vehement in your actions and words, which these 107-page papers prove with everything else you have done since this hearing, especially with the visitors parking, it is only strengthening those convictions within everyone that you will not be able to live in this building peacefully and be able to abide by the rules like everyone else.
Given the lengthy history of refused access to the rental unit and the Tenant’s and K.R.’s vehement policy of non-cooperation with the landlord’s employees, I do not find that they would likely comply with a conditional order to cooperate with all lawful notices of entry served by the Landlord.
The tenant/landlord relationship is so broken that with any result with the appeal, you will still be required to move out, as, in the end, no one will agree to allow you to continue to live here with the landlord/tenant relationship being as it is, even if I wasn’t here. Itis just not done.
You only have yourself to blame for what your family is going through.No one else did this to you, as it was your own vehemence in trying to control access to the apartment for repairs, but you seem to have conveniently forgotten that fact. The judicial system is a lot smarter than you think and you can try and bury these facts in as many accusations against others as you want and in building operational complaints, it won’t change them and everything that you have done since is only reinforcing those facts: that you have no respect for the rules and regulations of apartment living, the property owners nor the staff, including other tenants, as you refuse to follow the rules then, and continue to do so now, without regard for anyone else, even your own family, and it is for these reasons alone that you were evicted from the apartment. All your own words in these papers show that. There is nothing you can do at this point to change that. It was your own stubbornness in wanting to control whom enters and when, and what for, is the reason you have to move out. Blaming others for your eviction is just a smokescreen to try and cover your own actions, but the truth always wins out in the end. It takes time, but eventually, it all comes out and it will in this case too, as the end is close. I have no doubt about that as I have every confidence in the court system.
Please accept the email below and have it added to my File #2017-08-24-17-30-08948 as proof of the continued harassment. As you can see in the email addresses below they sent this response to my employers at the following emails address: , whom is not involved with this complaint as a means to “demean, belittle, or cause personal humiliation or embarrassment, and any act of intimidation or threat”.
As their harassment is based on an allegation of a racist conversation I allegedly had with them at a public restaurant in mid-June 2016, details of which they supplied is in my evidence I submitted, the company I work for, employment which started June 29th, 2016, is not part of this complaint and for them to deliberately send an email to my employers about it is an attempt to embarrass me with them is against my human rights as well as privacy as they made direct reference to my Human Rights application below.
Thank you for your time and if you require anything else please let me know. I am hoping that this application will soon be before the Tribunal as I am in need of a resolution. I am looking forward to proving their allegations are false and that the conversation they allege didn’t even happen, as I have documentation to show where I was on any given day in June 2016 before I moved into this building and started working here and I am interested in seeing what proof they come up with.
Below, you will find all the emails I received from Kory Read from June 8, 2018 to October 14, 2019. There are quite a few blank ones there, with just “place in file” in the subject line. I don’t know why Kory & Allison Read thought they could keep adding to the applications they already submitted on June 4, 2018 but throughout the 19 months they continually sent in more and more, trying to use my reactions over their written crap as more evidence against me. This is not how the process works and they should have known that before even applying to them.
You will find some just sent to me, even an strange one I got with the same spelling of “ohh boo hoo” as the one I actually got from Kory Read and the messages I got on LinkedIn from Kory Read trying to access my social profiles. Why would Kory Read want to see my LinkedIn profile? More evidence of his stalking.
There are also quite a few where you will see Kory Read try to manipulate me into trying to do what he wanted, and when I do not, he once again emails people to ask them to get me to “stop emailing them”. This is done as a humiliation tactic as I refused to give him what he wanted, just as Kory & Allison Read did with my employers when I worked here. They continued this trend with HRTO over everything I did.
One thing I want people to see from all this: there is no empathy, just baiting, trying to get a response that they can use against me. Kory & Allison Read show no emotions, no vulnerability that tells the readers they are human people being affected by this, they only attack and accuse everyone else.
The content on their websites are all about the “bad” others did to them, in their own perspectives. They never admit to anything they did, no, they are perfect and do no wrong. Kory & Allison Read don’t seem to realize that these sites tell more about them and their intentions than they realize. Someday, maybe, they will see but I won’t hold my breath.
Kory & Allison Read are very aware that I have been mentally compromised but there is no consideration, no acknowledgement of one human being to another for a very stressful situation. There is no humility, no expression of any feelings at all, just more and more allegations, without proof, whenever I fight back and show my very human emotions over this situation I was going through. To them I am not a person, I am a thing to be destroyed.
I am another human being but Kory & Allison Read have always treated me as a automation, as a thing that they could attack and throw accusations at, all the time, but as soon as I respond, I am “harassing” them with my “pointless and ranting” emails and disturbing them for “speaking up for their rights”. Like I have no rights at all, not even to respond.
This is what I want people to see: Kory & Allison Read feel like I have no rights, not even to my name, as they stole it for their Smear Campaign website. They have always treated me and talked to me, and about me, like I am a second-class citizen who has no right to speak up for myself. Whenever I do, I am blasted for doing so, as you can read. It has always been this way.
The actions of Kory & Allison Read are only strengthening social profiling of individuals and they are more guilty of “racism and bias” with their Smear Campaign websites than I could ever be in my lifetime with their constant labeling of people. With their own words online in the content of these websites, and in the documents I have, they are showing the world just how small minded they are. They have labelled people from Hamilton as “sloppy/bummy” , the LTB adjudicator as “ghetto” their constant use of “Caucasian” and “racist” before a name.
Their action of walking away from HRTO shows just how unwilling they are to fight for real change. All Kory & Allison Read are interested in is blaming others and are abusing a real issue for their own personal gain.
“Playing the race card is an idiomatic phrase that refers to the exploitation of either racist or anti-racist attitudes in the audience.” They claim race is the issue, as they thought it would cause us to back off, when it was the refusal of entry. Nothing else and now everyone knows it like I do.
Below you will find my complete response to the Human Rights Applications against me, including 2 letters they sent out for the Tenants Association they tried to get going and a letter that was sent October 2018 to one of the owners about refusing access. As I had 2 applications in my name but they were identical, this response was used for them both. Please note as you read this some of the dates may be mixed up but the info is correct. I wrote this document, and put it all together, while I was still seriously compromised by my mental breakdown I had a month before and was on some serious medications that made me loopy as well.
Kory & Allison Read claim I was looking for sympathy from writing all this but I thought it was important, and still is, to show the effects this situation was having on me and my life and why. Even the HRTO process asks to show how all this is affecting you and why. I came into this position here with some physical limitations that also affected my mental due to the stress of dealing with it. When you add the stress of dealing with tenants like Kory & Allison Read and their many accusations and assumptions, it just added to the stress I was already under personally. It all plays a part of the situation.
Read the letter at the bottom where Allison Read states “I will except a few dates to choose from, and I will choose from these same dates and times to let you know what works for me and my family”. They are dictating when we can access.
It is also in this letter where they state that Kory Read, as her partner, was a “super attendant for many years, He has informed me that he has NEVER had ANY contractors or pest control cancel out on him on the same day they were to arrive.” As per their documents, not only was Kory Read a super attendant for many years” he also worked where he saw the effects of fire “for many years’, as they claim when talking about the smoke detectors in another document I have shown.
This document is so confusing! I did finish it though and I put all the repeats in italics and made it smaller so you can skip if you wish.This document was supposed to answer to the Replies they received from myself and the owners.I see it brought up but not addressed in here. It mostly talks about deferral/dismissal and I have no idea why.
It also tries to claim that the 4 applications they filed with HRTO was not based just on the alleged prior meeting they claim we had at some restaurant sometime in June 2016 where they claim I gained my “racist views of the applicant and her family” that I was supposed to have during their tenancy and tried to get them illegally evicted as a result of my personal views.
This was the total basis of the applications with HRTO but in here they try to say it is not? See how confusing this document is?
“Her health issues that appeared only after the pre-HRTO complaints no matter how fake, or serious they are. Are irrelevant as a defence for the now alleged former Alto Properties Inc. Property Manager Stella Reddy.
It appears to the Applicants that the now alleged former Alto Properties Inc. Property Manager Stella Reddy is planning to try and use her medical issues as some way to rationalize all of her pre-HRTO complants, racially motivated actions of harassment, discriminating and acting in a reprisal manner.
Again it is the opinion of the Applicants, as they are not doctors they cannot say with certainty about her being a Narcissist, but as the old saying goes.
If it walks like a duck, sounds like a duck, acts like a duck and looks like a duck… it’s probably a duck.”
See the sentence above I copied from this document? So, according to Kory & Allison Read, not only are my health issues fake, they are not relevant. No other sentence I ever saw that they wrote that shows their lack of empathy and consideration for other people. They Bully me, Gaslight me, spread rumours and lies, and I am not allowed to be emotionally affected and if I am, I am not allowed to express it as they find it “irrelevant”. WOW.
“The Applicant would challenge any of the 3 Respondents to prove with where the Applicants have lied or mislead the HRTO? Another example of Kory & Allison Read gaslighting others into a response, just as they have done to me throughout.
“She has NEVER shown a touch remorse for her behaviour or even hinted at a apologizing,” This sentence is projection, as they are the ones whom have never shown any remorse for the hell they put me thru with their false claims against me of racism and the various domains they have online filled with their personal speculations. The document below is more of the same, filled with “it appears” followed by Kory Read personal opinions once again, not any facts he can prove. Just suppositions over what HE THINKS is going on.
More crazy-making documents! NO matter what anyone says or does, Kory Read will have some logical way of explaining it away or attacks you in this manner above and tries to get you defensive over something else that lets him avoid answering.
What is a “crazy”-making behavior? It is behavior that is made to sound very logical and practical, but which actually makes no sense and/or serves to give options that only punish the abused. The double-bind is one of the primary “crazy”-making behaviors. It puts the abused into such a position that she is damned if she does and damned if she doesn’t. “Crazy”-making is not necessarily conscious on the part of the emotional abuser, but it is often very effective in intimidating the recipient into wondering where she or he may find the logic—where might she or he do something practical that will offer solutions to the problems in this relationship. As we can see here, however, problem solving is not really an option with “crazy”-making. No, the emotional abuser, like any other abuser, wants control, not solutions.
I don’t know when I got this document below but I do know it was sometime last year. This is one of the documents I haven’t read, as I was told it would be too much for my mental health at the time. As I was editing it though today I noticed some stuff that I will have to go back and read. It seems to be a Response to our reply’s, but I thought that was already sent in.
This is also where they try to convince the HRTO to not consolidate the files, as they were worried after getting the Interim Decision and it seemed like everything they sent in after their initial application wouldn’t be accepted. They try change their applications with this document to just himself and the children, not Allison Read as he stressed the 3 respondents all the time throughout.
All documents I have, that were sent after the initial applications on June 4, 2018, would not be counted in their applications, except for the response sent Sept 11, 2018, this one, and my Reply. Everything I have that I didn’t share, was not accepted for the applications, including the Property Manager details.
“it appears” is there 76 times. “it is” at the beginning of the sentence is there 240 times. These phrases are followed by personal opinions, not facts. I was told there are once again varying assumptions over my actions in this document with their attempts to lay claim they can read my mind and know what I am doing. Notice all the labels on people once again.
I did see one section I read while editing that I have to comment on:
“During this time not once did the now alleged former Alto Properties Inc. Property Manager Stella Reddy complain about her many health issues.
She did not have health issues when …she was made the pattern of her making the Applicants sit around, waiting 3 times for her, and she never bothered to show up without warning.
She did not have health issues when …when she was building the 3 Respondents provoked case to have the evicted.
She did not have health issues when…she was throwing away the key to their unit to justify her illegal N5 to get them evicted.
She did not have health issues when…she was in front of Social Justice Tribunal Member Kevin Lundy of September 26, 2017, lying.
She did not have health issues when…she refused the Applicants parking at the building, but at the same time gave the all-white tenant that same privilege she refused the interracial Applicants.”.
Wow, this section really shows how vindictive they are towards me doesn’t it? I guess people who have physical limitations should go around advertising what their issues are before getting involved with anything or anyone? Don’t they realize how discriminating these comments are towards people with invisible disabilities? I don’t always show my limitations and I shouldn’t have too advertise them either as they talk here like they expect me to do.
As I said, Kory & Allison Read don’t know what real discrimination is if they can write this way. They discriminate against so many people and actions in their written documents. Even if you only read what I have shared here, you will come to see what they are doing and how wrong it is!
I will read these papers now and while I know they are long, it is very informative with Kory & Allison Read’s many assumptions and suppositions over others.
It is mind boggling to think, that she thinks these irrelevant issues can possible have any relevance or role in her defence to help justify her own request for a deferral and/or dismissal.
It appears the now alleged former Alto Properties Inc. employee Stella Reddy is doing as she has previous done with others, and that is trying to play like she is the victim and that she has been dealt such a rough hand in life.
I copied the above from this document as it shows the condescending attitude of Kory & Allison Read and lack of empathy towards anyone who has experienced any hardship. My Reply has nothing to do with a defer/dismissal, as I didn’t have to talk about that at all. My Reply was for the applications against me by Kory & Allison Read. I speak, all the time, about the emotional effect of being involved in this process, as I am still a human being who has them. I can’t shut off my emotions over being attacked this way and I shouldn’t have too. Kory & Allison Read just don’t seem to get that being bullied over a long period of time will have an effect on someone. Even the HRTO process tells me to speak of how this action has affected me. Just because they do not, does not mean I can’t either.
This to me was one of the more toxic maneuvers of the Narc. A smear campaign is commonly executed after you have caused narcissistic injury. Also, if you have discarded a Narc and exposed the Narc and his “false self”.
They do NOT like that, and will make you pay. You have taken your fuel and supply with you and The Narc does not like that. And you exposed the Narc, and you should have known better (according to the Narc).
Enters “Smear Campaign” ~ just like you stayed in your question, the environment becomes very hostile.
The smear campaign is born out of a combination of factors, including the need to be right and have his or her “truth” become the prevailing script, retaining status and standing (making sure that his or her inner hidden shortcomings doesn’t become public), and maintaining control of his or her image. The woman or man high in Narc traits curates her or his public persona very carefully; appearing successful, accomplished, and together is all-important.
Control is what keeps it all together for the Narc, that control offers protection for the vulnerability of his or her image. The Narc, when vulnerable, when at risk of exposure, will viciously attack the victim, not directly but through the smear campaign. The Narc will actively seek out, friends, family members, colleagues. The Narc will NOT allow for a narrative to be written that contradicts his false-self.
You are a liar, a druggie and gambler. You’ve cheated and lied and driven the Narc to bankruptcy. You are spoiled and violent. You abuse the Narc emotionally.
These are just a few things the Narc will say to anyone and everyone that you are in contact with. They will do much worse.
Your family is a big one for most Narcs. Throughout Quora, you will read time and time again, that the victim has lost their family, a mother, brother, cousin to the Narcs smear campaign. So yes, it is a hostile environment executed by the Narc to let everyone know and see that they are the victim.
Bullies get their self-esteem from making others feel bad. They have an insatiable need to feel like they’re better than someone and for power. And if they see someone who’s truly happy, confident, or successful, they will hate that person with a passion and go out of their own way to break them down and make them pay for it.
Bullies will verbally abuse the lucky person, set them up for failure or to get into trouble with authority, try to sabotage the person’s goals and success, humiliate them and try their hardest to destroy them.
You see? Bullies can’t handle the success and happiness of others because they’re not happy and successful themselves. Also, the other person’s good fortune only reminds the bullies of the people they wish to be but clearly aren’t and highlights the bullies’ laziness, mediocrity, insecurities, and failures!
No, you didn’t make them do anything we can potentially make people feel upset or make people feel angry or make people feel annoyed if we have done something intentionally or unintentionally to make someone feel that way we would try to do our best to understand and make it up to them however their reactions are on them just like when the narcissist baits you into a situation where you react to them their actions were in the wrong and our responses if we responded in a toxic way are inappropriate.
We repeatedly provoke. The act of provocation is one which is designed to cause a strong and often unwelcome emotion in the recipient. On one level, it can be said that everything we do is provocative because we are always looking to cause you to be emotional, to react in an emotional fashion to what we do and as a consequence give us the fuel that we need.
Provocation is a mainstay of our behaviour. It comes in many forms, it is used in many different ways and on a range of occasions but its effects are always the same.
The provision of a massive dose of negative fuel from a primary source;
The exertion of control over you;
The reinforcement of our image of superiority, lack of accountability and omnipotence;
The creation of an emotional state in you which hampers your ability to think clearly and logically;
The creation of a situation where you can later be made to feel guilty for erupting in the way you have at us;
The manufacturing of a scenario which is used to reinforce our façade – we were calm and bewildered by this outburst.
The manufacturing of a scenario which is used to smear you to third parties.
Provocation is a very useful tool to us. It is used extensively and repeatedly. Know why it is being used. Do not try to outlast it and exert your capability for patience, tolerance and understanding. You are just goading us to try harder. Remove yourself before your threshold is reached to avoid giving us points 1-7 above.
Provocation will always be used against you.
The article below I share hit a nerve this morning, as this is just how my life has been the past 2 yrs and the end of the article is what I am trying to achieve. You have no idea what it feels like to live with such fear of Bullies and their Smear Campaigns, like what is shown on the websites I shared here written by Kory & Allison Read.
Articles like the ones I share below help me greatly in achieving inner peace and help me to determine the path of my future. Every day I get up and do my little self-talk of affirmations, that keep me on track and determined to expose Adult Bullies and their actions of Smearing Campaigns online against myself and others, just for doing their jobs.
It also helps me stay strong in face of their extreme Bullying online, which seem to be getting worse and more volatile. Remember, Kory Read’s extremes views are just his alone about me, no matter how hard he tried, it is his lone voice, writing as Administrator, on these pages. His lone voive don’t count.
It’s true! When you’re a target of bullying and mobbing, you really can’t do anything right. But understand that bullying does that to targets. It causes them to be extremely nervous and always on edge.
You drop things, trip over stuff, the intense nervousness and fear make you awkward and uncoordinated. It makes you clumsy. The human stress response is, indeed, a tricky little devil!
You become even more afraid, which makes the clumsiness worse- fearful of screwing up, afraid to fail, afraid to be yourself because you know your bullies are watching you closely, and you’re mistakes and failure are precisely what they’re waiting for.
And it seems the harder you try not to screw up, the more you do. You’re confused and don’t know which way to turn, nor which end is up. Making choices is hard before you aren’t sure which decisions are the right ones. No one can think clearly when they don’t feel safe.
Because when your mind and body are in panic mode- when your brain rewires itself for a hostile environment after people have, for so long, subjugated you to inhumane treatment, the part of your mind that deals with decision-making and emotional regulation automatically shuts down. And you’re at the mercy of your primal instincts!
Again, all this is what bullying does to victims! It’s why most victims of bullying have low grades and performance in school and why their work projects suffer in the workplace. And it’s why they’re looked at by teachers and supervisors as failures and nuisances.
But there’s hope. When you finally get out of the dangerous environment you’re stuck in, and away from those poisonous people, you’ll be amazed at how quickly the nervousness, clumsiness, and awkwardness will go away!
You will be calm again, finally. You’ll be able just to relax, breathe, and be. And that’s a freedom I can’t describe when I remember how it happened for me.
The relief is such that it’s a feeling of being able to come up for air after having your head held underwater, or of coming home after a long time away. When you’re in a new place and around better people, you can put your best foot forward and start over.
It is the eye-rolling retort that Karens everywhere have come to know all too well: “OK, KAREN.”
Yes, it is their given name – but on the internet, “Karen” has come to stand for so much more.
According to a popular meme, Karen is a middle-aged white woman with an asymmetrical bob asking to speak to the manager, who happens to be as entitled as she is ignorant.
But as the meme has become more prominent in online discourse, its meaning has become confused, and criticism has been voiced that it is sexist – with real-life Karens caught in the crosshairs.
I want you to understand that if a person hurts you physically, emotionally, psychologically or socially; any opinions that person has of you hold no value and should be considered null and void!
That person should be of no importance to you whatsoever because they can bring absolutely no good to you or your life!
You should only value the opinions of those who love and care about you and are down for your good and your advancement! Not of those who continually tear you down, wreck your self-esteem and belittle you. They should have zero significance to you.
It doesn’t matter if they are in a high position, the most popular person, have the most money, etc. If they consistently tear you down, they’re no good to you and you should just blow them and their opinions off, and keep going.
‘The smear campaign is an orchestrated series of lies and misinformation initiated by toxic people as a method of damage control in the event of them being exposed.’ Anne McCrea
Narcissists use a calculated (and effective) series of lies and gossip to deliberately bring their target down and make themselves look good. Why? There can be many reasons such as you seeing them for who they really are, to discredit you should you decide to expose them, jealously, a relationship coming to an end, not giving the narcissist enough attention or a simple disagreement. The target of a smear campaign often finds themselves isolated and / or ostracised by family and people who they once thought of as friends.By the time the victim finds out about the back stabbing and betrayal, it’s too late, the damage has been done. No one believes them. Their credibility has been undermined, their reputation assassinated. The narcissist has painted a dark picture of their target and any denials only add fuel to the narcissist’s version of events.
Of course, not every social media user with a complaint is a cyberbully. The vast majority of people commenting on your Facebook page or tweeting at your company likely have legitimate concerns or complaints.
Others will stand out clearly as cyberbullies. Here are a few of their hallmarks:
A lack of details or concrete demands. They really just want to rant.
Statements that seem designed to start arguments or get people angry
Foul language, hate speech, and otherwise inappropriate content