Adult Bullying & Mental Health

sredd4848
August 1, 2020

August 23, 2020

Over the past week I have taken the time to read every word written on those websites and I am very happy to say they no longer trigger my anxiety as they once did.

I believe the reason is due to the fact that I have accepted that Kory & Allison Read are what they are, Adult Bullies and will continue their Smear Campaign, as they do not care.

They don’t care what their written words do to people and their emotions, as they refuse to acknowledge human emotions.

They refer to me in these sites as a THING, not a person, as they don’t acknowledge any human emotions their smear campaign against me may bring. No matter how much evidence there is that show these actions like what they are doing, does have a serious effect on people.

I even have a copy of all my psychiatrist appointments, as I need to take them to NL with me, and it clearly states in there what my diagnoses are and what treatments I have been getting.

Kory & Allison Read refuse to acknowledge that their actions could effect anyone on a psychological level, and they constantly negate my mental health issues their actions have caused me.

They write their content as if I have no right to human emotions at all. We all know that is not possible.

As a human being, I have very strong emotions, especially when they have been compromised as they were over being bullied so severely over the past 4 years, online and in person when they still lived here.

All anyone really needs to do is read the content on these websites Kory & Allison Read own, as they have it written there, and you will come to understand.


Update: August 2, 2020

I went to the emergency yesterday, as I was having a really hard time with my anxiety, and couldn’t get it down. I spent a couple of hours sitting in a small room, and got to talk to a psychologist for over an hour and got medication a little stronger than what I have here, that also helped. I had a severe panic attack, first like that in a while, with hallucinations and all.

Some of it is my own fault for giving in and reading some of the newly typed crap written by Kory Read that he put online recently on my namesakes website, as I wrote on that page here.

While I was in the hospital talking to this doctor, I showed her some of the websites pages, so she could see what I was dealing with, and I could tell by her automatic facial expressions as she was reading, that it dismayed her to see such stuff online.

You can’t hide your automatic shock over reading such drivel, as laid out by Kory Read.

The images he creates of Stella Reddy on these pages with his written words are sickening to the soul. I have had people tell me that reading this garbage, actually makes them sick to their stomachs, it is that disgusting. It does for me. It isn’t so much the topic, but the way it is written and the words used, that paint such a nasty picture.

This is concrete evidence of why my anxiety is so high and won’t go down: I actually fear for my life with these sites online as they are. This doctor is also going to reach out to the Police Officer who took all my complaints over them over the past few months to see if there is anything she could do to help push it along for a charge, as there is major evidence of Stalking of people and places shown on these recent pages, with pictures!

Most people with anxiety issues don’t really know why they feel anxious, I do. I have a very real threat to my life, especially with the news in recent weeks and the evidence of hate crimes being done against others. Even a total stranger can see this is what Kory & Allison Read are trying to do!!

Just look at the words they are using, they are right out of other news articles, so they get caught in searches. They are trying to incite someone enough to do something against me, my husband, the property here, or some random tenant living here. The more they add to these pages, the more they show their own character and prove they are Adult Bullies intent on a Smear Campaign.

The past few weeks have been really hard on my anxiety. We all know moving is stressful, and moving provinces more so, especially for someone with anxiety issues anyway. One item, one day, at a time.


I thought it important to post some information on mental health issues that can be caused by being Bullied in the manner that I have been, in person and online, by Kory & Allison Read.

One thing that people with mental health problems, they spend so much time living in a fog, not being able to think straight, sometimes for days or months. I spent months in my pj’s, sitting around playing games on my tablet, not even able to decide what to have for dinner, let alone do any of the things Kory Read accuses me of on his sites. Yes, I had bouts of seeing things and hearing things that were not there. I became very paranoid, like I was being hunted. I still feel that way. Who wouldn’t with the crap online written about me by Kory & Allison Read?

You end up with memory issues, which is why the HRTO reply I did have some of the dates wrong. I already wrote about the breakdown I had and what caused me to lose my shit that day. It was the culmination of all the bullying within the building from Kory & Allison Read and other tenants here they got riled up and the pressure to stay quiet, so Kory Read wouldn’t get anything else he could twist around. Every word I say or write is taken by Kory Read and twisted with his brand of speculations. That is all his websites are about, the twists he can come up with over what was said and done by others. No, there is nothing there that they did to anyone, not even talk about trying to get a tenants’ association going to get the staff fired.

Yes, I already had PTSD for many years, since I had a house fire, and I was seriously hurt as a result. I ended up in the hospital for 3 months with 2 broken legs, smashed up knees, a busted face, and severe 3rd degree burns in some places from ash falling on me. I was in ICU for 5 weeks on a ventilator due to smoke inhalation. I spent 2 1/2 yrs in rehab learning to walk again and it took me 5 yrs of major counselling to get through the depression and PTSD, so I could function. I was also a single parent with 2 young children at the time that I was not able to look after myself so my brother lived with us and looked after them while I recovered. I also had to deal with many health issues like severe arthritis now in my knees that affect my mobility, and I had reoccurring cancer since 1999 with surgeries every couple of yrs to remove lesions. I was also diagnosed with cervical spinal stenosis in 2015, that has weakened my left side and I can’t drive much anymore as a result. I also developed a tendon tear in my left shoulder in 2018 that caused what they call a frozen shoulder where I couldn’t move it, and I am still not recovered fully yet but I do have about 80% use back in my left arm. I did all that typing for HRTO almost one handed as I couldn’t use my left hand.

I am not looking for sympathy, just understanding in that the past few yrs I have not been myself and I won’t be for a long time to come. My functioning of daily life is limited due to fear, anxiety and depression. I am no longer able to work, not just physically but mentally. I have no trust in people anymore. For the past couple of yrs just about every word I have said was twisted into some dark mess that I have no clue about, as my head just can’t go there.

I read the written words by Kory Read on his smearing websites, and I am just amazed and distressed at the depths he gets into and the twists he follows in thoughts, trying to pass these thoughts off as mine. I just can’t go there in my head, I have no clue where he gets this thinking from, as it surly isn’t me. I am just not capable to go that dark in thinking, as he laid out on these sites. Some of Kory Read’s speculations over other people are really twisted.

I am sure I have had enough readers to this site now for them to know that the way Kory Read has my character laid out on his smearing websites is all wrong. You can see from my writing here that I just don’t think the way he claims I do and I have not done anything he says I have. While people can’t know a person just from their writing, they can get enough of an idea of a person’s character to know that what one nasty person says on a bunch of websites, are all lies. That is all I need.

http://www.camh.ca/en/health-info/mental-illness-and-addiction-index/posttraumatic-stress-disorder

Overview

Posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is a natural emotional response to frightening or dangerous experiences that involve actual or threatened serious harm to oneself or others. However, for some people, the thoughts or memories of these events seriously affect their lives, long after any real danger has passed. These types of experiences are called “traumatic.”

Signs & Symptoms

PTSD usually appears within three months of the event, but sometimes symptoms may not appear for years. Common symptoms include:

  • re-experiencing the traumatic event over and over
  • having recurring nightmares
  • experiencing unwanted, disturbing memories of the event
  • acting or feeling as if the event is happening again
  • feeling upset when reminded of the event
  • staying away from activities, places or people that are reminders of the traumatic experience
  • avoiding friends and family
  • losing interest in activities that used to be enjoyable
  • experiencing difficulty having loving feelings
  • being unable to feel pleasure
  • constantly worrying
  • having a hard time concentrating
  • getting angry easily
  • having trouble falling asleep or staying asleep
  • fearing harm from others
  • experiencing sudden attacks of dizziness, fast heartbeat or shortness of breath
  • having fears of dying.

Causes & Risk Factors

PTSD is a response to traumatic life events, such as car crashes, fires, bombings, rape, torture or seeing a family member, friend or other person harmed or killed. Being involved in a natural disaster, such as a hurricane, flood or earthquake, can also lead to PTSD.

Some people experience traumatic events and do not develop PTSD. Many factors play a part in whether a person will develop the disorder. Risk factors make a person more likely to get PTSD, whereas protective factors reduce the likelihood of developing the disorder.

Risk factors for PTSD include:

  • experiencing dangerous events and trauma in the past
  • having a history of mental health or substance use problems
  • feeling helplessness or extreme fear
  • having a small support system after the traumatic event
  • feeling guilt, shame or responsibility for the event or its outcome
  • experiencing additional stress after the event (e.g. loss of a loved one, pain and injury, loss of a job or home).

http://www.camh.ca/en/health-info/mental-illness-and-addiction-index/stress

Overview

Stress is a normal response to situational pressures or demands, especially if they are perceived as threatening or dangerous. Stress is the result of brain chemicals, called hormones, surging through the body. These hormones make people sweat, breathe quicker, tense their muscles and prepare to take action. When this happens, a person’s built-in alarm system—their “fight-or-flight” response—becomes activated to protect them.

A certain amount of stress is a normal part of daily life. Small doses of stress help people meet deadlines, be prepared for presentations, be productive and arrive on time for important events. However, long-term stress can become harmful. When stress becomes overwhelming and prolonged, the risks for mental health problems and medical problems increase.

Long-term stress increases the risk of mental health problems such as anxiety and depression, substance use problems, sleep problems, pain and bodily complaints such as muscle tension. It also increases the risk of medical problems such as headaches, gastrointestinal problems, a weakened immune system, difficulty conceiving, high blood pressure, cardiovascular disease and stroke.

Signs & Symptoms

The signs and symptoms of stress may be cognitive (thinking-related), emotional, physical or behavioural. Their severity can range from mild to severe.

Cognitive symptoms include:

  • difficulty concentrating or thinking
  • memory problems
  • negativity or lack of self-confidence
  • constant worrying
  • difficulty making decisions.

Emotional symptoms include:

  • moodiness
  • low morale
  • irritability
  • feeling hopeless or helpless
  • feeling apprehensive, anxious or nervous
  • feeling depressed
  • feeling unhappy or guilty
  • feeling agitated or unable to relax.

Physical symptoms include:

  • headaches
  • muscle tension or other physical pain or discomfort
  • stomach problems
  • nausea, diarrhea or vomiting
  • loss of sex drive
  • rapid heart rate
  • high blood pressure
  • fatigue.

Behavioural symptoms include:

  • changes in eating or sleeping patterns
  • social withdrawal
  • nervous habits such as nail biting, teeth grinding or foot tapping
  • increased use of caffeinecigarettesalcohol or other drugs
  • neglect of family or work responsibilities
  • decline in performance or productivity.

Causes & Risk Factors

Stress often results if a person feels that there are high pressures or demands, that there is a threat to their well-being or that they don’t have enough resources to cope with the demands.

Common sources of stress include a person’s physical environment (e.g., noisy streets or an unsafe living space), relationships, work, life situations and major life changes. These situations can include negative events such as financial problems, relationship breakup, difficulties at work or school, injury, illness or death and grieving. However, situations leading to stress can also include positive changes, such as work promotions, getting married or buying a house.

Because stress is a normal part of life, everyone experiences it. However, the intensity, frequency and duration of stress will be different for each person. Numerous factors can make the experience of stress worse, such as when people:

  • have limited social support
  • have multiple stressors
  • have difficulty regulating or balancing their emotions
  • have difficulty tolerating uncertainty or distress
  • lack self-confidence or do not feel they can cope with the stressor
  • interpret the stressor negatively, so that they feel powerless, overwhelmed or helpless.

http://www.camh.ca/en/health-info/mental-illness-and-addiction-index/depression

Depression

​Clinical depression is a complex mood disorder caused by various factors, including genetic predisposition, personality, stress and brain chemistry.

Overview

Depression is much more than simple unhappiness.

Clinical depression, sometimes called major depression, is a complex mood disorder caused by various factors, including genetic predisposition, personality, stress and brain chemistry. While it can suddenly go into remission, depression is not something that people can “get over” by their own effort.

Some forms of depression may develop under unique circumstances:

Depression with psychosis: In some cases, depression may become so severe that a person loses touch with reality and experiences hallucinations (hearing voices or seeing people or objects that are not really there) or delusions (beliefs that have no basis in reality).

Signs & Symptoms

The main symptom of depression is a sad, despairing mood that:

  • is present most days and lasts most of the day
  • lasts for more than two weeks
  • impairs the person’s performance at work, at school or in social relationships.

Other symptoms of depression include:

  • changes in appetite and weight
  • sleep problems
  • loss of interest in work, hobbies, people or sex
  • withdrawal from family members and friends
  • feeling useless, hopeless, excessively guilty, pessimistic or having low self-esteem
  • agitation or feeling slowed down
  • irritability
  • fatigue
  • trouble concentrating, remembering or making decisions
  • crying easily, or feeling like crying but being not able to
  • thoughts of suicide (which should always be taken seriously)
  • a loss of touch with reality, hearing voices (hallucinations) or having strange ideas (delusions).

Causes & Risk Factors

There is no single cause of depression.

Potential triggers of depression include:

  • genetic or family history of depression
  • psychological or emotional vulnerability to depression
  • biological factors such as imbalances in brain chemistry and in the endocrine/immune systems
  • major stress in the person’s life.

http://www.camh.ca/en/health-info/mental-illness-and-addiction-index/panic-disorder

Panic Disorder

​Panic disorder refers to recurrent, unexpected panic attacks that involve stressful physical and cognitive symptoms, and behavioural signs.

Overview

Panic disorder refers to recurrent, unexpected panic attacks (e.g., heart palpitations, sweating, trembling) followed by at least one month of:

  • constant concern about having another panic attack or the consequences of a panic attack (e.g., having a heart attack), and/or
  • significant behaviour changes related to the attacks (e.g., avoiding exercise or places for fear of having a panic attack).

A panic attack is a sudden feeling of intense fear or discomfort that peaks within minutes. It includes stressful physical and cognitive symptoms as well as behavioural signs.

Signs & Symptoms

Physical symptoms include:

  • pounding heart
  • sweating
  • trembling or shaking
  • shortness of breath
  • feelings of choking
  • chest pain or discomfort
  • dizziness or nausea
  • sensations of heat or cold
  • numbness or tingling
  • feelings of unreality or being detached.

Cognitive symptoms include thoughts such as:

  • “I’m having a heart attack.”
  • “I’m suffocating.”
  • “I’m losing control.”
  • “I’m going crazy.”

Behavioural signs include:

  • avoiding places where the person had anxiety symptoms in the past (e.g., a certain grocery store) or similar places (e.g., all grocery stores)
  • avoiding travel, malls, line-ups
  • avoiding strenuous activities (e.g., exercise).

Causes & Risk Factors

It is not known exactly why some people develop panic disorder, although research suggests that various factors may be involved. Like most mental health problems, panic disorder appears to be caused by a combination of biological and psychological factors and challenging life experiences, including:

  • stressful or traumatic life events
  • a family history of panic disorder
  • other medical or psychiatric problems.

http://www.camh.ca/en/health-info/mental-illness-and-addiction-index/anxiety-disorders

Anxiety Disorders

​Anxiety is cause for concern when symptoms are persistent and severe and cause distress to the person’s daily life.

Overview

Everyone experiences symptoms of anxiety, but they are generally occasional and short-lived, and do not cause problems. But when the cognitive, physical and behavioural symptoms of anxiety are persistent and severe, and anxiety causes distress in a person’s life to the point that it negatively affects his or her ability to work or study, socialize and manage daily tasks, it may be beyond the normal range.

The main categories of anxiety disorders are:

People with anxiety disorders may feel anxious most of the time or for brief intense episodes, which may occur for no apparent reason. They may have anxious feelings that are so uncomfortable that they avoid daily routines and activities that might cause these feelings. Some people have occasional anxiety attacks so intense that they are terrified or immobilized.

People with anxiety disorders are usually aware of the irrational and excessive nature of their fears. When they come for treatment, many say, “I know my fears are unreasonable, but I just can’t seem to stop them.”

Signs & Symptoms

Each of these anxiety disorders is distinct in some ways, but they all share the same hallmark features:

  • irrational and excessive fear
  • apprehensive and tense feelings
  • difficulty managing daily tasks and/or distress related to these tasks.

Cognitive, behavioural and physical symptoms include:

  • anxious thoughts (e.g., “I’m losing control” )
  • anxious predictions (e.g., “I’m going to fumble my words and humiliate myself”)
  • anxious beliefs (e.g., “Only weak people get anxious”)
  • avoidance of feared situations (e.g., driving)
  • avoidance of activities that elicit sensations similar to those experienced when anxious (e.g., exercise)
  • subtle avoidances (behaviours that aim to distract the person, e.g., talking more during periods of anxiety)
  • safety behaviours (habits to minimize anxiety and feel “safer,” e.g., always having a cell phone on hand to call for help)
  • excessive physical reactions relative to the context (e.g., heart racing and feeling short of breath in response to being at the mall).

The physical symptoms of anxiety may be mistaken for symptoms of a physical illness, such as a heart attack.

Causes & Risk Factors

Like most mental health problems, anxiety disorders appear to be caused by a combination of biological factors, psychological factors and challenging life experiences, including:

  • stressful or traumatic life event
  • family history of anxiety disorders
  • childhood development issues
  • alcohol, medications or illegal substances
  • other medical or psychiatric problems.

Smear Campaign Effects

sredd4848
July 26, 2020

The poster above is so true don’t you think?

The internet is littered with such posters as there are so many incidents of Smear Campaigns online like what Adult Bullies, Kory & Allison Read, have done that explains it all.

All you need to do is read their content to know what they are doing to total strangers, all because they are mad and spiteful over their eviction last year. Can’t you tell how angry and vicious they are becoming? Trying so hard to get his personal opinions out there, to influence others against me and my family. It is so obvious!

Their new content shows their obsession with me and my life, as they spend so much time speculating about it. If Kory & Allison Read prefer to spend their time speculating on me and what I am doing, go ahead. They don’t know me, so everything they do is speculation!

Kory & Allison Read will be held accountable in time, I have no doubt. All it takes is time for people to come to realize that they are full of shit and no absolutely nothing about the people they are bashing online, like they claim. Their lies get exposed for what they are, as the truth will not be denied and will come out. I am waiting for this day, as I know it is coming really soon!

In the meantime, Adult Bullies, Kory & Allison Read, can stew in their lack of knowledge and speculate all they want. The more lies they write about me in the content on their smearing websites, the better their downfall will be when the truth comes out!


The poster below tells its own story, doesn’t it? I came across it this morning and wanted to share. I was pretty angry yesterday when I wrote what I did below. I am trying so hard not to be bitter but it isn’t easy. I feel trapped and I either give in or I fight back. I am choosing to fight my way out as I refuse to give in and allow it to continue. It’s all about choice. My mental health and my future with my family, is more important to me than anyone or anything else and I need to find my way back. The only way I can do that is to cut all ties to this building and to Ontario. I am going home.

The effects of a Smear Campaign are terrible on the person being smeared in such a way as I have been online and in person. If you are an empath, as I have learned I am, you tend to take things to heart, even when you shouldn’t, so something like this situation will send you into a tailspin, not knowing which way is up anymore. The effect of Smear Campaigns usually end up in a mental breakdown, as your mind can’t handle the cruelty shown towards you by another.

Every day I am still amazed over the cruelty shown from one human to another.

I don’t understand how one stranger can say so many unproven lies about another. If this stranger needs to spend so many pages trying to convince another that what they say is true, then it obviously isn’t. The truth is simple and don’t need many pages before it trying to convince you. If what they claim is true, they also don’t need to compare these actions with another person and try to convince you they are the same. No two people are the same, no matter what anyone says.

Kory & Allison Read don’t know me, never did. We are not friends, nor family. I did not “confide” in them over anything I did, or do, they were tenants whom were evicted for their own actions and these Smear Campaign websites online is their revenge for this eviction. Simple truth, don’t you think?

I don’t need to compare their actions to another, nor compare them to anyone else to try and prove what I say. I just share the original documents I received where they lay out their many accusations against me and others so readers can see how these lies and exaggerations have expanded over time. I use the internet and the many articles and websites on Adult Bullies and their Smear Campaigns to show that this is what they are doing. It is so simple. Their words, from the beginning in 2016 till now is all I need to show what they are doing against me and my family.

The definition of a smear campaign is all I need, as these websites fit the description. The actions of Kory & Allison Read also fit the description of Adult Bullies, intent on trying to destroy their targets, as bullies do. If you read any of their content on these sites you will see the truth, they are smearing others, as an anonymous person no less, trying to incite hate towards these people with their words. Such cowards, hiding behind anonymity. Hiding their ownership over these sites is the first sign of an Adult Bully.

It was the same here within the building from October 2016 till they moved out on their own June 1, 2019. We received the first letter I share on its own page, as it is so important to this situation, where they say they met me when they came to pay rent in July, made some vague mention of some things they claim I said to them but don’t say what. They don’t even ask for the owners to look into it, nor do they ask to meet with anyone to discuss their concerns, as any normal person would. They just make bald statements and state they no longer wanted to deal with me and accuse me of various things in attempts to intimidate me into doing what they wanted from me. You can feel the aggression from them in this letter. It is in all their written words actually.

I tried very hard the past couple of years not to turn into a bitter resentful person over all this, but I didn’t succeed. I have a lot of resentment towards various people and agencies I dealt with over this situation. I am resigned but also so very angry over the lack of concerns over my feelings and the effects all this was having on me. It isn’t easy feeling like you are being ignored and your concerns are passed off, especially when you have proof of how it is all affecting you. Even when I no longer worked here, I was still being told to “stay quiet” not to interfere with the Appeal and give Adult Bullies Kory & Allison Read something else to use against us in Human Rights. Everyone was so concerned over not giving Kory & Allison Read anything else to use on their sites or with Human Rights that my rights were totally ignored and I ended up with a mental breakdown as a result.

It takes a lot to reach that point of going into psychosis. I still don’t remember those 2 days but I have flashes. The need to LEAVE was paramount, to get away from my bullies was so strong I was told I even packed up my stuff and was going to leave. That happened a few times over the past few years actually. I came really close to leaving my husband over all this, as he loves his job here and I felt guilty over asking him to give it up, so I can get some peace. So I stuck it out, hoping with the Appeal and the end of Human Rights would get them to give up their campaign against me. No such thing happened, as Kory & Allison Read’s resentment got too much, and they did more websites instead. They hated to lose their Appeal, they thought they had such a strong case, same with Human Rights. They thought they would win as they are so strongly opinionated, they thought their words over what others did would be enough. Like their opinions are all that matters, not any proof they could provide.

The current content on these sites I don’t need to read to see the “proof” they’re trying to provide comes from comparing my actions to other people or use info on a general website with a job description. There is no document, no recording, they have that show ME doing any of this stuff. They have nothing and no one to back them up, never did and never will, no matter how hard they try.

I have reached the end of my tolerance for all this mess, and I am determined to get my life back. I need peace in my head and I need peace in my life. I want to be able to go out and not fear for my life over someone recognizing me. The paranoia is terrible and the lack of faith and trust I have in people are also bad for me and my head. I don’t like feeling this way and I don’t care who knows it. Smear Campaigns purpose is to ruin people and isolate them from everyone and everything they love and to a point this has happened here. I still have a lot of support but I lost faith in believing it. I hate questioning everyone and their intentions.

I am determined to put an end to this Smear Campaign, one way or another. I have reached the point where I no longer care what anyone else wants or feels, they didn’t care about me and what I have been going through, so it is time to make everyone accountable to this mess and get my life back. I am so sick of being tied to this building and this company. I just worked here, I don’t own the building nor do I have any say in what happens here, never really did. Now I just exist here, as I no longer have a life, pandemic or not. I don’t go out, I am too afraid to, even sitting on my balcony, where it is in front, sets my anxiety off. I don’t need to live like this and I refuse to do so.

I am making plans and getting away from here, completely. Time has come for a new beginning, a fresh start. I had thought that when I moved in here, I would live here till we both retire and move back home. That was our plan, as it was an easy job here without all of Kory & Allison Read’s drama. Even some of the tenants who was on their side in the beginning have apologized to me since for their part and I forgave them, even my neighbours who were friends with them.

This coming week will be interesting, my anxiety is thru the roof, but in the end I am looking forward to the changes it will bring. I need my life back, and I am determined to get it.

The Many LIES on Stellareddy.com

sredd4848
July 14, 2020

Kory & Allison Read do not know me, never did. We are not family, nor friends. They were tenants whom were EVICTED, and this is their REVENGE for this eviction, A Smear Campaign

September 10, 2020

I will leave you with a thought for the next few weeks until I return to posting.

Kory & Allison Read spend so much time talking about building procedures, writing like they believe they are entitled to have a say in them.

Why did Kory & Allison Read feel comfortable doing that, especially as they are only renting and really had no say in the decison anyway?

Why is it that Kory & Allison Read feel comfortable with stating that the staff and owners take a paid parking spot away from a tenant, just because they don’t have a car there, just for them who wanted it free? If you are paying for a parking spot, it can’t be arbitrarily taken for someone else. That’s the point if renting a space, it is yours whether you have a car or not.

I will never advertise that I have a car, or 2, even 3. It’s no ones business.

All the building procedures Kory & Allison write about in such a condescending, and detailed, manner, are none of their business.

Don’t you just love how entitled they sound with their content? Expecting owners to take a paid spot away from another tenant just so that they could have it, for free no less, even though there is no free parking here?

Writing like its a crime I had 2 cars parked here, when it reality it’s none of their business.

They write like they have a say over BBQ in the building, when it is none of their business.

How entitled they are in all their content. Poor Kory & Allison Read, not getting special treatment that they want and expect, all because they say so.

Kory & Allison Read write in such a entitled way, you would think that every building procedure was made up just to “inconvenience” them, not for any other purpose.

Kory & Allison Read write their content like my sole purpose in life is to cause “inconvenience” to them. How entitled is that?

That is how entitled Kory Read believes they are, that all building procedures are in place just to cause “inconvenience” to them. They feel that they should not have to follow the rules like every one else.

Their content, and the way it is written, tries to imply that everything said and done was personal, when it is business.

The Poster above is very apt for this domain in my name, isn’t it?

Kory Read is trying too hard to show he is an expert on my life and how I should live it in the content on this domain.

Not only do he spend so much time trying to convince I had a job title I did not, so he can be right about something, he also tries to tell me who I should associate with online.

Why should I care about Kory Read’s personal speculations on other people when his speculations on my life is so wrong? Talk about GOSSIP!

Tell me, Kory Read, why do you care who I associate with online?

You still didn’t answer my question, who made you judge, jury, and executioner of myself and others? Try not to deflect it at someone else… 🙂


http://stellareddy.com/

I did manage to read most of this site the past few days and I must say, Kory & Allison Read have a wild imagination! How they can take something I wrote and twist it with their assumptions is really crazy. I am blown away by the detail they go into. It makes seeing “administrator” at the top all the more absurd, as the writer of such content to hide away.

Does anyone really wonder why I went off the rails for so long, once you see the garbage they write about me online? I am only human after all.

Seeing such nasty bullying words online about your character can be traumatizing. Kory Read don’t know me, and he can spend as many pages as he wants trying to convince people otherwise, it still won’t work.

Of course, Kory & Allison Read don’t see any of that, they are cruel human beings and have no clue what their actions do to the person they write about. If you do manage to read any of their crap, put your name where mine is and you will get an idea of what I go through at the hands of these people.

Kory & Allison Read are not doctors so for them to spend so much time trying to convince people I had no mental health issues is just another way to try and discredit me and take away any of their own blame for the state I got into mentally.

Kory & Allison Read refuse to acknowledge that their actions of posting such websites online with such nasty content can cause severe mental health issues for the person being smeared. They refuse to take any responsibility for what their content online does to anyone. Not to mention the garbage I got from Human Rights process!

Which is why they refuse to put their names on these sites, as they know what they are doing is WRONG and deceitful.

Yep, I am now going to call out Kory & Allison Read!

I DARE Kory & Allison Read to put their names on these sites!! Put your name on there, OWN your WRITTEN words about other people.

I DARE Kory & Allison Read to make it possible for comments on their sites and for people to contact them. Give people a way for them to contact you about your garbage online.

They will never do that, as they are scared.

Kory & Allison Read are total hypocrites! They spend so much time on their websites going on about other peoples accountability, yet refuse to accept their own, the main being ownership of these sites!

Brutality Quotes | Brutality Sayings | Brutality Picture Quotes ...

https://stellareddy.com/stella-reddy-luigi-liscio-anthony-liscio-and-a-barbecue/

BBQ’s… I am sorry this topic is such a waste as Kory Read proves with this page what an idiot he is, as he assumes that all BBQ must be propane, as he don’t acknowledge that there are different types out there. I just think that Kory Read is once again ignoring the very obvious, as it don’t fit his narrative!

I have told Kory & Allison Read so many times that the BBQ my sister has is the Electric type!! It actually plugs in and do not use propane. There are a few here like that and I even got one now myself!

Does anyone really think I am dumb enough to allow my own sister to move in and use a propane BBQ when other tenants could not use them?

Does Kory Read really expect people to believe that just because someone has a BBQ on their balcony here, that he went out of his way to snitch pictures of and share online, that they are ALL propane?

Do Kory Read know if they were propane, does he have evidence they are being used? All he did was take pictures of people’s balconies and ASSUME they are all propane, as you don’t see any tanks, do you? Nor do you see any of them being used.

Once again speculations by Kory & Allison Read that they want people to accept as the truth.

When I stated Kory & Allison Read were the only ones with a BBQ, it was true, as they were the only ones using a propane BBQ.

Maybe I should have been more specific in my statements and treat all the tenants like children, and talk as if they didn’t have a clue about the many different shapes, makes, and sizes of BBQ’s. I thought the specifics I spoke of on PROPANE BBQ’s would be enough. I guess I should have added propane in front of BBQ all the time.


This website is in my name, as Kory & Allison Read took it to use for this site as a deliberate act. Since this site was first posted online in April 2019, the content has changed a few times, even moved hosting companies and domain providers. Each time complaints got it knocked down a bit, it showed up somewhere else with new content. Such determination. Why is that I wonder?

When last checked Newfoundland still had the internet and people could still search up individuals by names and their history. Just in case the racist Stella Reddy and her enabling husband think they can hide from
the internet, their racist and anti-black behavior and these websites.

I copied the above from www.stellareddy.com and yes, Kory Read is correct, there is internet in Newfoundland but one big difference, I have no fear of living there, not even with Kory & Allison Read’s Smear Campaign online, as I know the speculations on my life as written on these sites, is not accepted there. I did nothing wrong.


Instead they are forced to move due to their own actions and inability to recognize their own faults and misdeeds.

Another quote above showing Kory Read’s inability to accept responsibility for anything he does. Talk about projection!

It is Kory & Allison Read actions that is forcing us to move, for the very obvious smearing websites online. Not only is the content made up of lies, rumours, exaggeration, and total speculations over every aspect of my life that has severe effects on my mental health, their instigating content puts a real target on my back. With these very deliberate actions, they are making it unsafe for me to stay. Yes, it is Kory & Allison Read’s fault I don’t feel safe to stay living here and have my husband continue working here.

What does Kory & Allison Read really think these continual accusations and false allegations does to the psyche of the person being attacked in such a way as they are doing, and have done, over such a long period of time?

Kory Read shares pictures, addresses, and telephone numbers, even a map, showing where I live.

Now who in their right minds would continue to live under such a threat that they have created for us?

How is it that Kory Read does not see that these hateful websites of his is what is driving us to move? Does he really think we would want to have any “ BIG OLD RETIREMENT PARTY” at any point with such hateful websites online that they created?

It is enough that their Adult Bullying and Smear Campaigns contributed to my mental breakdown 2 yrs ago, and I had to quit, and it still continues to affect my mental health.

Kory & Allison Read are delusional to think their actions are not at fault. It is obvious when you read just some of their written content on that site their intent is to hurt me, mentally and physically. It is the purpose of a Smear Campaign after all!

Kory & Allison Read made the choice to post such content online bashing me and anyone to do with me, yet now that it is being shown that these actions contributed to my mental health problems, have created a real serious threat to my physical safety enough to drive me away from our home and his job, they are trying to claim I am a fake and faking my issues. “Stella Reddy is a fake” and “And the pattern of her lying only continues with her conveniently fabricate PTSD“. Any excuse to get out of being responsible for their actions! Is Kory Read or Allison Read a doctor?


And she is beginning held accountable for her actions and having to answers for her behavior.

I have no idea why Kory Read wrote this here. If I had done anything wrong, even illegal, there would be some evidence of it and it would have come out by now. It has been almost 4 yrs here and I worked in the industry for 18 yrs. Besides, if there is anything I should be accountable for in any of my actions, it would have come out in their Human Rights complaints. Instead, Kory & Allison Read wasted 19 months of my mental health, and every ones time, for nothing, as they ignored the teleconference and didn’t call in so the applications were dismissed as abandoned. Why do that if they were so sure of what they accuse me of?

So what is it again I need to be held accountable for? I did nothing wrong, no matter Kory Read speculates in his word salad content on these sites. I know it and so do they.

All you need to do is meet me to know that Kory & Allison Read are lying. You can’t judge someone based on the words of another, no matter how strong their opinions.

All the racism allegations are a fabrication, made up from Kory Read’s nasty mind when they were being forced to allow entry to the apartment when they didn’t want to do so!! You can see and hear Kory Read’s own words to that effect! They were very persistent that NO ONE gets into the apartment alone, no matter the reason. It was these words at the LTB in Sept 2016 that caused their eviction.

Kory Read brought all this on themselves with the words below that they spoke. It was these actions of refusing access that broke the rules of apartment living and they were made to move out.

These lies were elaborated upon since Kory & Allison Read were taken to the Landlord and Tenant Board for the refusing of access. They had a whole year to make up stories to try and throw the spotlight onto me instead of their own actions. Ever since then, their stories keep changing, and they keep adding even more accusations! Talk about obvious!

Kory & Allison Read made complaints about me to every agency they could and each time they were shot down. What does that tell you?

Now, as they lost all their legal actions against me, they decided to go the public route and create and post these websites online bashing my character, and recently going after other family, and even some random stranger online who liked and commented on this site. What makes them think they actually have any influence over the general public when they had no influence over the legal actions they were part of? Did they not LOSE them all?


http://stellareddy.com/show-me-your-friends-and-i-will-show-you-what-your-about-pt-2/

The 3 pages to this post I shared above is some rant by Kory Read. So many speculations there, like :

Let us note that NO ONE is sitting in Stella Reddy’s soon to be vacant apartment, holding a gun to her head, making her type this racist material and putting it online. 

Let us note that NO ONE is sitting in Stella Reddy’s soon to be vacant apartment, holding a gun to her head making her link a White Pride raiocst’s website to her own blog.

And NO ONE is sitting in Stella Reddy’s soon to be vacant apartment, holding a gun to her head making her look for “support” and advice from a extremely proud White Pride couple to post on her own blog.

Stella Reddy does this of her OWN free will and desire to try and gain followers on her blog and social media.

Now lets put this in perspective and switch it around here and show the real truth of all this. 

Kory Read posted www.859kennedyroad.com on November 2, 2017 where they first Smear myself and the property owners with their allegations. Kory & Allison Read started this situation with their refusal of access, and they continued it ever since first in the building with other tenants and then online. I wouldn’t need to be looking for support over the Adult Bullying and Smear Campaigns against me if Kory & Allison Read didn’t start it in the first place!! What is wrong with support, no matter where it comes from, if it helps you? What, I am not allowed to seek support for this very terrible thing I experienced because Kory Read has a problem with it? 

My website showed up here March 12, 2020 where I tell the truth and show the evidence, from the beginning that do not include the mess Kory Read has turned it into now. As you can make and post websites, so can I. As you put whatever you want on your sites, so can I. Kory Read is such a hypocrite and these actions point it out so clearly! 

Let us note that NO ONE is sitting in Kory Read’s soon to be vacant apartment, holding a gun to his head, making him type this smearing material and putting it online.

Let us note that NO ONE is sitting in Kory Read’s soon to be vacant apartment, holding a gun to his head, making him take my words from my website to use on his own blog.

And NO ONE is sitting in Kory Read’s soon to be vacant apartment, holding a gun to his head making him look for “support” and advice from total strangers for his many lies about Stella Reddy by posting such content online in VARIOUS websites.

Kory Read does this of his OWN free will and desire to try and gain followers on his blog and social media. Kory Read does this of his OWN free will in his attempts to news jack with the current news for more exposure. as shown by Kory Read’s own words. “And this folks is what systematic racism looks like!” as he has written on the last page of https://sjtomemberkevinlundy.com/part-nineteen/

Quid Pro Quo, as they say. This is just more examples of Kory & Allison Read hypocrisy! Do as I say, not as I do!! 


Are Kory & Allison Read now going to go after, judge, and tear down, anyone who likes and comments on my site, even random strangers? Such venom against total strangers on this site. I would really like to know who make Kory & Allison Read judge, jury, and executioners, of anyone. They write their content as if only their opinions matter and their versions are the truth. It is only an opinion.

Kory Read is such a mind-reader, as he knows exactly what others are doing in their lives hey? He should go on the road and make some money with that one! Kory Read claims here that we “can not afford to pay the rent to live there anymore“. What makes him think we paid rent, anywhere, in all our years of working in apartment buildings?

Don’t Kory Read know that part of the benefits we got in this job did include an apartment, RENT FREE? Even utilities were paid for! We even got FREE cable!! Sure, the actual funds we received wasn’t equal to other jobs, but when you factor in free rent, utilities if not included in the rents of the building, and even free cable, we actually do really well! I never complained, why would I with all the benefits I had in my career? We even got health benefits!! I lived where I worked, how much easier can you get than that? I am not complaining over salaries I got, not even now. We always had what we needed and got to go places and do things.

The grey Nissan that Kory Read complains about I had in one of the 2 parking spots I had here, also free, I bought brand new and paid off! The other car I had was a gift from family when they left the province. I miss driving, but due to the Cervical Stenosis I can’t drive much anymore. The neck turns are terrible after a while. As I said before, Kory & Allison Read have no clue about my life. How could they? They are strangers to me.

“Either way it appears that the racist Stella Reddy and her enabling husband are on the move due to something the owners have done. And they are pissed off about it. Threatening to now get the Ontario Health And Safety after them!”

This sentence above highlights Kory & Allison Read’s speculations, trying to make it sound they know what is going on.

Yes, I called Ontario Health and Safety, and filed a complaint, on Kory & Allison Read! This is so an investigation can be done about the Adult Bullying and obvious Smear Campaign online instigated by them against me and other family members, even the owners! Even other tenants living here could be affected by the target Kory & Allison placed on me and the property. I had a nice chat, was told what could be done, and it will be done. Even my sister can file a complaint, as she is also named on these sites.

In the meantime, my hubby is still working here, I am still living here. I am making plans for our move, and I am starting to get excited about it all. My nerves are bad, I cry all the time, jump at the littlest thing, but I am excited about my future and so looking forward to getting peace of mind at home on the Rock!



Emails: Kory Read

sredd4848
July 14, 2020

Below, you will find all the emails I received from Kory Read from June 8, 2018 to October 14, 2019. There are quite a few blank ones there, with just “place in file” in the subject line. I don’t know why Kory & Allison Read thought they could keep adding to the applications they already submitted on June 4, 2018 but throughout the 19 months they continually sent in more and more, trying to use my reactions over their written crap as more evidence against me. This is not how the process works and they should have known that before even applying to them. 

You will find some just sent to me, even an strange one I got with the same spelling of “ohh boo hoo” as the one I actually got from Kory Read and the messages I got on LinkedIn from Kory Read trying to access my social profiles. Why would Kory Read want to see my LinkedIn profile? More evidence of his stalking. 

There are also quite a few where you will see Kory Read try to manipulate me into trying to do what he wanted, and when I do not, he once again emails people to ask them to get me to “stop emailing them”. This is done as a humiliation tactic as I refused to give him what he wanted, just as Kory & Allison Read did with my employers when I worked here. They continued this trend with HRTO over everything I did. 

One thing I want people to see from all this: there is no empathy, just baiting, trying to get a response that they can use against me. Kory & Allison Read show no emotions, no vulnerability that tells the readers they are human people being affected by this, they only attack and accuse everyone else.

The content on their websites are all about the “bad” others did to them, in their own perspectives. They never admit to anything they did, no, they are perfect and do no wrong. Kory & Allison Read don’t seem to realize that these sites tell more about them and their intentions than they realize. Someday, maybe, they will see but I won’t hold my breath. 

Kory & Allison Read are very aware that I have been mentally compromised but there is no consideration, no acknowledgement of one human being to another for a very stressful situation. There is no humility, no expression of any feelings at all, just more and more allegations, without proof, whenever I fight back and show my very human emotions over this situation I was going through. To them I am not a person, I am a thing to be destroyed.

I am another human being but Kory & Allison Read have always treated me as a automation, as a thing that they could attack and throw accusations at, all the time, but as soon as I respond, I am “harassing” them with my “pointless and ranting” emails and disturbing them for “speaking up for their rights”. Like I have no rights at all, not even to respond. 

This is what I want people to see: Kory & Allison Read feel like I have no rights, not even to my name, as they stole it for their Smear Campaign website. They have always treated me and talked to me, and about me, like I am a second-class citizen who has no right to speak up for myself. Whenever I do, I am blasted for doing so, as you can read. It has always been this way.

The actions of Kory & Allison Read are only strengthening social profiling of individuals and they are more guilty of “racism and bias” with their Smear Campaign websites than I could ever be in my lifetime with their constant labeling of people. With their own words online in the content of these websites, and in the documents I have, they are showing the world just how small minded they are. They have labelled people from Hamilton as “sloppy/bummy” , the LTB adjudicator as “ghetto” their constant use of “Caucasian” and “racist” before a name.

Their action of walking away from HRTO shows just how unwilling they are to fight for real change. All Kory & Allison Read are interested in is blaming others and are abusing a real issue for their own personal gain. 

“Playing the race card is an idiomatic phrase that refers to the exploitation of either racist or anti-racist attitudes in the audience.” They claim race is the issue, as they thought it would cause us to back off, when it was the refusal of entry. Nothing else and now everyone knows it like I do. 

Response to HRTO-Stella Reddy

sredd4848
July 13, 2020

Below you will find my complete response to the Human Rights Applications against me, including 2 letters they sent out for the Tenants Association they tried to get going and a letter that was sent October 2018 to one of the owners about refusing access. As I had 2 applications in my name but they were identical, this response was used for them both. Please note as you read this some of the dates may be mixed up but the info is correct. I wrote this document, and put it all together, while I was still seriously compromised by my mental breakdown I had a month before and was on some serious medications that made me loopy as well. 

Kory & Allison Read claim I was looking for sympathy from writing all this but I thought it was important, and still is, to show the effects this situation was having on me and my life and why. Even the HRTO process asks to show how all this is affecting you and why. I came into this position here with some physical limitations that also affected my mental due to the stress of dealing with it. When you add the stress of dealing with tenants like Kory & Allison Read and their many accusations and assumptions, it just added to the stress I was already under personally. It all plays a part of the situation.

Read the letter at the bottom where Allison Read states “I will except a few dates to choose from, and I will choose from these same dates and times to let you know what works for me and my family”.  They are dictating when we can access.

It is also in this letter where they state that Kory Read, as her partner, was a “super attendant for many years, He has informed me that he has NEVER had ANY contractors or pest control cancel out on him on the same day they were to arrive.” As per their documents, not only was Kory Read a super attendant for many years” he also worked where he saw the effects of fire “for many years’, as they claim when talking about the smoke detectors in another document I have shown. 

What do you think? 

Another Reply

sredd4848
July 13, 2020

This document is so confusing! I did finish it though and I put all the repeats in italics and made it smaller so you can skip if you wish.This document was supposed to answer to the Replies they received from myself and the owners.I see it brought up but not addressed in here. It mostly talks about deferral/dismissal and I have no idea why.

It also tries to claim that the 4 applications they filed with HRTO was not based just on the alleged prior meeting they claim we had at some restaurant sometime in June 2016 where they claim I gained my “racist views of the applicant and her family” that I was supposed to have during their tenancy and tried to get them illegally evicted as a result of my personal views. 

This was the total basis of the applications with HRTO but in here they try to say it is not? See how confusing this document is? 

“Her health issues that appeared only after the pre-HRTO complaints no matter how fake, or serious they are. Are irrelevant as a defence for the now alleged former Alto Properties Inc. Property Manager Stella Reddy.

It appears to the Applicants that the now alleged former Alto Properties Inc. Property Manager Stella Reddy is planning to try and use her medical issues as some way to rationalize all of her pre-HRTO complants, racially motivated actions of harassment, discriminating and acting in a reprisal manner.

Again it is the opinion of the Applicants, as they are not doctors they cannot say with certainty about her being a Narcissist, but as the old saying goes.

If it walks like a duck, sounds like a duck, acts like a duck and looks like a duck… it’s probably a duck.”

See the sentence above I copied from this document? So, according to Kory & Allison Read, not only are my health issues fake, they are not relevant. No other sentence I ever saw that they wrote that shows their lack of empathy and consideration for other people. They Bully me, Gaslight me, spread rumours and lies, and I am not allowed to be emotionally affected and if I am, I am not allowed to express it as they find it “irrelevant”. WOW. 

The Applicant would challenge any of the 3 Respondents to prove with where the Applicants have lied or mislead the HRTO? Another example of Kory & Allison Read gaslighting others into a response, just as they have done to me throughout. 

“She has NEVER shown a touch remorse for her behaviour or even hinted at a apologizing,”  This sentence is projection, as they are the ones whom have never shown any remorse for the hell they put me thru with their false claims against me of racism and the various domains they have online filled with their personal speculations. The document below is more of the same, filled with “it appears” followed by Kory Read personal opinions once again, not any facts he can prove. Just suppositions over what HE THINKS is going on. 

More crazy-making documents! NO matter what anyone says or does, Kory Read will have some logical way of explaining it away or attacks you in this manner above and tries to get you defensive over something else that lets him avoid answering. 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/traversing-the-inner-terrain/201910/crazy-making

What is a “crazy”-making behavior?  It is behavior that is made to sound very logical and practical, but which actually makes no sense and/or serves to give options that only punish the abused.  The double-bind is one of the primary “crazy”-making behaviors.  It puts the abused into such a position that she is damned if she does and damned if she doesn’t. “Crazy”-making is not necessarily conscious on the part of the emotional abuser, but it is often very effective in intimidating the recipient into wondering where she or he may find the logic—where might she or he do something practical that will offer solutions to the problems in this relationship.  As we can see here, however, problem solving is not really an option with “crazy”-making.  No, the emotional abuser, like any other abuser, wants control, not solutions. 


I don’t know when I got this document below but I do know it was sometime last year. This is one of the documents I haven’t read, as I was told it would be too much for my mental health at the time. As I was editing it though today I noticed some stuff that I will have to go back and read. It seems to be a Response to our reply’s, but I thought that was already sent in. 

This is also where they try to convince the HRTO to not consolidate the files, as they were worried after getting the Interim Decision and it seemed like everything they sent in after their initial application wouldn’t be accepted. They try change their applications with this document to just himself and the children, not Allison Read as he stressed the 3 respondents all the time throughout.

All documents I have, that were sent after the initial applications on June 4, 2018, would not be counted in their applications, except for the response sent Sept 11, 2018, this one, and my Reply. Everything I have that I didn’t share, was not accepted for the applications, including the Property Manager details.

“it appears” is there 76 times. “it is” at the beginning of the sentence is there 240 times. These phrases are followed by personal opinions, not facts. I was told there are once again varying assumptions over my actions in this document with their attempts to lay claim they can read my mind and know what I am doing. Notice all the labels on people once again. 

I did see one section I read while editing that I have to comment on: 

“During this time not once did the now alleged former Alto Properties Inc. Property Manager Stella Reddy complain about her many health issues.

She did not have health issues when …she was made the pattern of her making the Applicants sit around, waiting 3 times for her, and she never bothered to show up without warning.

She did not have health issues when …when she was building the 3 Respondents provoked case to have the evicted.

She did not have health issues when…she was throwing away the key to their unit to justify her illegal N5 to get them evicted.

She did not have health issues when…she was in front of Social Justice Tribunal Member Kevin Lundy of September 26, 2017, lying.

She did not have health issues when…she refused the Applicants parking at the building, but at the same time gave the all-white tenant that same privilege she refused the interracial Applicants.”.

Wow, this section really shows how vindictive they are towards me doesn’t it? I guess people who have physical limitations should go around advertising what their issues are before getting involved with anything or anyone?  Don’t they realize how discriminating these comments are towards people with invisible disabilities? I don’t always show my limitations and I shouldn’t have too advertise them either as they talk here like they expect me to do.

As I said, Kory & Allison Read don’t know what real discrimination is if they can write this way. They discriminate against so many people and actions in their written documents. Even if you only read what I have shared here, you will come to see what they are doing and how wrong it is! 

I will read these papers now and while I know they are long, it is very informative with Kory & Allison Read’s many assumptions and suppositions over others. 

It is mind boggling to think, that she thinks these irrelevant issues can possible have any relevance or role in her defence to help justify her own request for a deferral and/or dismissal.

It appears the now alleged former Alto Properties Inc. employee Stella Reddy is doing as she has previous done with others, and that is trying to play like she is the victim and that she has been dealt such a rough hand in life.

I copied the above from this document as it shows the condescending attitude of Kory & Allison Read and lack of empathy towards anyone who has experienced any hardship. My Reply has nothing to do with a defer/dismissal, as I didn’t have to talk about that at all. My Reply was for the applications against me by Kory & Allison Read. I speak, all the time, about the emotional effect of being involved in this process, as I am still a human being who has them. I can’t shut off my emotions over being attacked this way and I shouldn’t have too. Kory & Allison Read just don’t seem to get that being bullied over a long period of time will have an effect on someone. Even the HRTO process tells me to speak of how this action has affected me. Just because they do not, does not mean I can’t either. 

Links For Support!!

sredd4848
July 13, 2020

Why do narcs have to smear you and your name to everyone they meet? Seems like they are creating a hostile living for you, harrassment by third party.

This to me was one of the more toxic maneuvers of the Narc. A smear campaign is commonly executed after you have caused narcissistic injury. Also, if you have discarded a Narc and exposed the Narc and his “false self”.

They do NOT like that, and will make you pay. You have taken your fuel and supply with you and The Narc does not like that. And you exposed the Narc, and you should have known better (according to the Narc).

Enters “Smear Campaign” ~ just like you stayed in your question, the environment becomes very hostile.

The smear campaign is born out of a combination of factors, including the need to be right and have his or her “truth” become the prevailing script, retaining status and standing (making sure that his or her inner hidden shortcomings doesn’t become public), and maintaining control of his or her image. The woman or man high in Narc traits curates her or his public persona very carefully; appearing successful, accomplished, and together is all-important.

Control is what keeps it all together for the Narc, that control offers protection for the vulnerability of his or her image. The Narc, when vulnerable, when at risk of exposure, will viciously attack the victim, not directly but through the smear campaign. The Narc will actively seek out, friends, family members, colleagues.
The Narc will NOT allow for a narrative to be written that contradicts his false-self.

You are a liar, a druggie and gambler. You’ve cheated and lied and driven the Narc to bankruptcy. You are spoiled and violent. You abuse the Narc emotionally.

These are just a few things the Narc will say to anyone and everyone that you are in contact with. They will do much worse.

Your family is a big one for most Narcs. Throughout Quora, you will read time and time again, that the victim has lost their family, a mother, brother, cousin to the Narcs smear campaign. So yes, it is a hostile environment executed by the Narc to let everyone know and see that they are the victim.

Its nothing but chaos.

i really hope this helped.


https://wordpress.com/read/feeds/60845972/posts/2881799634


https://wordpress.com/read/feeds/4816067/posts/2879339567


https://wordpress.com/read/feeds/60845972/posts/2880009011

Bullies get their self-esteem from making others feel bad. They have an insatiable need to feel like they’re better than someone and for power. And if they see someone who’s truly happy, confident, or successful, they will hate that person with a passion and go out of their own way to break them down and make them pay for it.

Bullies will verbally abuse the lucky person, set them up for failure or to get into trouble with authority, try to sabotage the person’s goals and success, humiliate them and try their hardest to destroy them.

You see? Bullies can’t handle the success and happiness of others because they’re not happy and successful themselves. Also, the other person’s good fortune only reminds the bullies of the people they wish to be but clearly aren’t and highlights the bullies’ laziness, mediocrity, insecurities, and failures!


https://wordpress.com/read/feeds/105648277/posts/2882663842

“You made me do it.”

No, you didn’t make them do anything we can potentially make people feel upset or make people feel angry or make people feel annoyed if we have done something intentionally or unintentionally to make someone feel that way we would try to do our best to understand and make it up to them however their reactions are on them just like when the narcissist baits you into a situation where you react to them their actions were in the wrong and our responses if we responded in a toxic way are inappropriate.


https://wordpress.com/read/feeds/4816067/posts/2882950454

https://wordpress.com/read/blogs/35054893/posts/17960


We repeatedly provoke. The act of provocation is one which is designed to cause a strong and often unwelcome emotion in the recipient. On one level, it can be said that everything we do is provocative because we are always looking to cause you to be emotional, to react in an emotional fashion to what we do and as a consequence give us the fuel that we need.

Provocation is a mainstay of our behaviour. It comes in many forms, it is used in many different ways and on a range of occasions but its effects are always the same.

  1. The provision of a massive dose of negative fuel from a primary source;
  2. The exertion of control over you;
  3. The reinforcement of our image of superiority, lack of accountability and omnipotence;
  4. The creation of an emotional state in you which hampers your ability to think clearly and logically;
  5. The creation of a situation where you can later be made to feel guilty for erupting in the way you have at us;
  6. The manufacturing of a scenario which is used to reinforce our façade – we were calm and bewildered by this outburst.
  7. The manufacturing of a scenario which is used to smear you to third parties.

Provocation is a very useful tool to us. It is used extensively and repeatedly. Know why it is being used. Do not try to outlast it and exert your capability for patience, tolerance and understanding. You are just goading us to try harder. Remove yourself before your threshold is reached to avoid giving us points 1-7 above.

Provocation will always be used against you.


The article below I share hit a nerve this morning, as this is just how my life has been the past 2 yrs and the end of the article is what I am trying to achieve. You have no idea what it feels like to live with such fear of Bullies and their Smear Campaigns, like what is shown on the websites I shared here written by Kory & Allison Read.

Articles like the ones I share below help me greatly in achieving inner peace and help me to determine the path of my future. Every day I get up and do my little self-talk of affirmations, that keep me on track and determined to expose Adult Bullies and their actions of Smearing Campaigns online against myself and others, just for doing their jobs.

It also helps me stay strong in face of their extreme Bullying online, which seem to be getting worse and more volatile. Remember, Kory Read’s extremes views are just his alone about me, no matter how hard he tried, it is his lone voice, writing as Administrator, on these pages. His lone voive don’t count.

It’s true! When you’re a target of bullying and mobbing, you really can’t do anything right. But understand that bullying does that to targets. It causes them to be extremely nervous and always on edge.


You drop things, trip over stuff, the intense nervousness and fear make you awkward and uncoordinated. It makes you clumsy. The human stress response is, indeed, a tricky little devil!


You become even more afraid, which makes the clumsiness worse- fearful of screwing up, afraid to fail, afraid to be yourself because you know your bullies are watching you closely, and you’re mistakes and failure are precisely what they’re waiting for.

And it seems the harder you try not to screw up, the more you do. You’re confused and don’t know which way to turn, nor which end is up. Making choices is hard before you aren’t sure which decisions are the right ones. No one can think clearly when they don’t feel safe.

Because when your mind and body are in panic mode- when your brain rewires itself for a hostile environment after people have, for so long, subjugated you to inhumane treatment, the part of your mind that deals with decision-making and emotional regulation automatically shuts down. And you’re at the mercy of your primal instincts!

Again, all this is what bullying does to victims! It’s why most victims of bullying have low grades and performance in school and why their work projects suffer in the workplace. And it’s why they’re looked at by teachers and supervisors as failures and nuisances.

But there’s hope. When you finally get out of the dangerous environment you’re stuck in, and away from those poisonous people, you’ll be amazed at how quickly the nervousness, clumsiness, and awkwardness will go away!

You will be calm again, finally. You’ll be able just to relax, breathe, and be. And that’s a freedom I can’t describe when I remember how it happened for me.

The relief is such that it’s a feeling of being able to come up for air after having your head held underwater, or of coming home after a long time away. When you’re in a new place and around better people, you can put your best foot forward and start over.


The ‘Karen’ meme is everywhere – and it has become mired in sexism

https://www.theguardian.com/fashion/2020/apr/13/the-karen-meme-is-everywhere-and-it-has-become-mired-in-sexism


https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/may/13/karen-meme-what-does-it-mean

It is the eye-rolling retort that Karens everywhere have come to know all too well: “OK, KAREN.”

Yes, it is their given name – but on the internet, “Karen” has come to stand for so much more.

According to a popular meme, Karen is a middle-aged white woman with an asymmetrical bob asking to speak to the manager, who happens to be as entitled as she is ignorant.

But as the meme has become more prominent in online discourse, its meaning has become confused, and criticism has been voiced that it is sexist – with real-life Karens caught in the crosshairs.


I want you to understand that if a person hurts you physically, emotionally, psychologically or socially; any opinions that person has of you hold no value and should be considered null and void!

That person should be of no importance to you whatsoever because they can bring absolutely no good to you or your life!

You should only value the opinions of those who love and care about you and are down for your good and your advancement! Not of those who continually tear you down, wreck your self-esteem and belittle you. They should have zero significance to you.

It doesn’t matter if they are in a high position, the most popular person, have the most money, etc. If they consistently tear you down, they’re no good to you and you should just blow them and their opinions off, and keep going.


‘The smear campaign is an orchestrated series of lies and misinformation initiated by toxic people as a method of damage control in the event of them being exposed.’ Anne McCrea

Narcissists use a calculated (and effective) series of lies and gossip to deliberately bring their target down and make themselves look good.  Why? There can be many reasons such as you seeing them for who they really are, to discredit you should you decide to expose them, jealously, a relationship coming to an end, not giving the narcissist enough attention or a simple disagreement.  The target of a smear campaign often finds themselves isolated and / or ostracised by family and people who they once thought of as friends.By the time the victim finds out about the back stabbing and betrayal, it’s too late, the damage has been done. No one believes them.  Their credibility has been undermined, their reputation assassinated.  The narcissist has painted a dark picture of their target and any denials only add fuel to the narcissist’s version of events.


https://wordpress.com/read/blogs/152524559/posts/175



https://wordpress.com/read/blogs/165532097/posts/7583



https://www.rockdovesolutions.com/blog/how-business-leaders-should-respond-to-cyberbullying

WHO IS—AND WHO IS NOT—A CYBERBULLY

Of course, not every social media user with a complaint is a cyberbully. The vast majority of people commenting on your Facebook page or tweeting at your company likely have legitimate concerns or complaints.

Others will stand out clearly as cyberbullies. Here are a few of their hallmarks:

  • A lack of details or concrete demands. They really just want to rant.
  • Statements that seem designed to start arguments or get people angry
  • Name-calling
  • Foul language, hate speech, and otherwise inappropriate content


I found a great article online explaining the effects of Bullying on a person physiologically and shows what this Bullying has done to me. Of course, Kory Read don’t want to believe any of this is true, that would mean that they are responsible. It’s okay, it took me a while to accept what I was experiencing.

The paranoia, the fear and anxiety, the helplessness, the depression, extreme sadness, the hallucinations, the psychosis and always in pain, inside and out. How the constant stress and fight or flight response sets off the Fibromyalgia flares. All the crying and screaming I have done and still do. No, Kory & Allison Read say I am fake as they refuse to see me as a real human being, and they have, nor shown, any empathy towards for what they write about me. Kory & Allison Read write as though my emotional and physical health is less important than their own desire for the thrill of attacking me online in this way!

No, they prefer to take my life and twist it into their nasty version they want people to see, and it isn’t even close! How can it be, they are strangers! The absurdity of their writings is getting so obvious, and they are digging a hole for themselves they won’t get out of for a long time to come! Sure they might hide their names, but it is easy to find, like I did. They are building some reputation for themselves as people not to be trusted.


https://www.mentalhelp.net/abuse/long-term-effects-of-bullying/

Bullying is Abuse

Here’s a few statements to get us started: 1) Bullying is a form of abuse, and 2) Bullying is a narcissistic sort of act. In making the first statement here, I mean to say that both bullying and traditional forms of abuse are selfish and/or sadistic, destructive, and often violent acts perpetrated upon victims who do not in any way, shape or form deserve to be treated in that manner. In making the second statement I’m suggesting that ring-leader bullies (those who organize bullying) are behaving as though the emotional and physical health of their victims is not important or is at least less important than their own desire for the thrill of aggression and dominance. Narcissists treat other people as though they were objects either to be used, or discarded, and the bully both uses his victim (for purposes of self-gratification and aggrandizement) and then discards him.

Bullying Causes Long-Term Emotional Damage

The experience of being bullied can end up causing lasting damage to victims. This is both self-evident, and also supported by an increasing body of research. It is not necessary to be physically harmed in order to suffer lasting harm. Words and gestures are quite enough. 

Bullying is an attempt to instill fear and self-loathing. Being the repetitive target of bullying damages your ability to view yourself as a desirable, capable and effective individual.

There are two ugly outcomes that stem from learning to view yourself as a less than desirable, incapable individual. The first ugly outcome is that it becomes more likely that you will become increasingly susceptible to becoming depressed and/or angry and/or bitter. Being bullied teaches you that you are undesirable, that you are not safe in the world, and (when it is dished out by forces that are physically superior to yourself) that you are relatively powerless to defend yourself. When you are forced, again and again, to contemplate your relative lack of control over the bullying process, you are being set up for Learned Helplessness (e.g., where you come to believe that you can’t do anything to change your ugly situation even if that isn’t true), which in turn sets you up for hopelessness and depression.

At the same time, you may be learning that you are helpless and hopeless, you are also learning how you are seen by bullies, which is to say, you are learning that you are seen by others as weak, pathetic, and a loser. And, by virtue of the way that identity tends to work, you are being set up to believe that these things the bullies are saying about you are true.

Please, check out the link above that goes to another site exposing Adult Bullies and Smear Campaigns! Very interesting articles written there and very knowledgeable. Unfortunately, this is everywhere but it is time as a society, for it to stop!


https://www.monster.ca/career-advice/article/your-rights-in-a-poisoned-workplace

Employers have to make sure your workplace is safe. That covers protection from physical harm. It also applies to psychological abuse.

Your job may have turned hostile if you’re being harassed or bullied. Under certain conditions that can constitute a “poisoned” environment under Canadian law.

What Is A Poisoned Workplace?

Every job has its share of indignities to put up with. Like playful teasing and name-calling. Or harmless though unsolicited flirting.

If those behaviours go from good-natured to offensive, employers have a duty to prevent – or deal effectively with – this harassment. Letting the situation persist means they aren’t fulfilling their obligation.

At a point where you feel unwelcome (or unsafe) at work because of the company’s failure to resolve the problem, its environment may have become poisoned.

Which Types of Harassment Are Included?

It’s not so much the type of abuse that matters. What counts is whether the employer has in place policies and procedures to deal with harassment, and if they make a proper effort to ensure that it’s dealt with appropriately.

So pretty much any form of tormenting can qualify. These are some of the common ones:

  • Bullying (intimidating someone, hounding them, making someone a victim)
  • Sexual harassment (unwanted flirting, comments, jokes, physical advances)
  • Physical harassment (undesired rough play, unsafe contact, threats of attack)
  • Discrimination (treating someone adversely based on their race, gender, disability, etc.)

Basically if the behaviour is degrading, menacing or abusive you should consider reporting it.


 
I found this article on Quora Digest this morning and as I was reading it I could see the same reaction I would get from Kory & Allison Read whenever they are questioned, as they twist things around the same way. If you question anything they say or do, they always turn it around to be about what YOU did, not them. It is also all over their websites. 
 
What do narcissists/psychopaths usually do when they get caught lying?

I think it might be helpful to get a flavor of how many narcissists react to being caught lying would be to present my response in the form of a hypothetical conversational snippet.

In the following hypothetical, the narcissist relationship partner is a guy and the significant other is a gal.

Narcissists/Psychopaths and How They Are Apt Respond When Caught Lying

Title: “The Old Flip Flop”

SO: (genuinely concerned)

Do you remember how we promised one another to always be straightforward and candid rather than behave in a sneaky manner?

Narc: (sensing a conflict on the horizon; therefore responds in a suspicious tone which signals to the SO that a fight might jump off any second)

Yeah….…….so what of it??

SO: (making a good-faith effort to not sound either accusatory or “judgey.”)

I have to mention that last night it was kind of off putting when you kept covering up your cell phone each time I was within three feet of it……….I thought we decided to be forthright with one an….….

Narc: (immediately interrupting, goes on the offensive; commences to pull the old “flip flop” maneuver)

I knew it!!! You are such a treacherous snake!! How could you go slithering and sneaking around behind my back?!?!

SO: (confused, bewildered, off balance)

Wait, I am talking about your behavior, not mine. On the one hand, you always want to know what I am doing, where I am, who I am with on a 24/7 basis.

However, on the other hand, as soon I am within a three foot radius of your telecheat, strike that, I mean telephone, you go ballistic. You know it would be nice if you would simply……………

Narc: (abruptly interrupting again and feigning being appalled)

Oh no you don’t even go there with your holier than thou routine!! Now that you admitted to having betrayed me; I am at a loss. How could you!! I thought we had an agreement. I think you owe me an apology!!!!

SO: (befuddled….bewildered….trying to get a grip on the narcissist’s mental gymnastics routine)

Huh!?!? How did this conversation get turned upside down?!? I wanted to get something straight with you regarding our agreement to treat one another in the same manner we would expect to be treated.

Narc: (enjoying exerting power and superiority over his hapless SO; interrupting, in order to further provoke her)

Who do you think you are to judge me?!? You are not better than me!!

SO: (regrouping, calmly without animation)

As you know, I have always risen to the occasion and been there for you when you needed a stability source. Just last week you told me you would start to make an effort to treat me with the same love and loyalty that I have always provided you whenever you needed it.

Based on your actions, I am now under the impression when we speak you are merely pretending to listen. Maybe if you stopped looking for fresh attention from new sources you would not be so distracted all the time.

Narc: (anger explosion in the form of a “distract attack.” He attempts to steer conversation away from his SO’s accurately calling him out on the fact he pretends to listen to her when she speaks.)

That’s it. You sound as if you are completely off your rocker! Are you going to book an appointment with with a psychiatrist, as in like tomorrow, or am I going to have to do it for you!! I can’t take your incoherent yammering any longer!

SO: (fatigued and resigned to the fact that the narcissist relationship partner will not compromise)

You know what? You are right, I must be babbling. I am exhausted. I am going to bed.

Post Conversation Analysis

When many narcissists feel threatened, they are prone to start making circular arguments, projecting, and going on the attack.

Some narcissists who are called out for hypocritical and mean-spirited behaviors will reflexively make counter accusations in an effort to…….…

••confuse any and all issues

••avoiding facing the issues at hand

••project their behavior onto their SOs

••make false allegations

••shift blame

Conclusion

Narcissists want any discussions about their deceitful conduct to devolve into a scene of utter mayhem in order to give them a pretext to petulantly stomp off.

Many narcissists present as if they are the aggrieved victims of their SOs’ unfair accusations and harassment. However, in actuality, it is narcissists who often portray themselves as victims in order to elicit sympathy and attention from others. Hence, I think the title of the above-referenced conversational snippet is fitting and appropriate — The Old Flip Flop.


Another great article below I copied. This writer really gets to the point doesn’t he? I like his style and so true! I am exposing Kory & Allison Read as Adult Bullies who have a Smear Campaign going online against other people and as a result, they are becoming more nasty and mean in the content on these sites.  How obvious can you be in your actions? 

You can see this reaction in the newly added content on the Smearing websites posted by Kory & Allison Read, as they have become more vindictive and manipulative. They have taken all the info they have received in various letters and notices from when I worked here and during the HRTO process, and is twisting it to fit his narrative, which is why they only show bits. Even the items he does shows, he only highlights on there what he wants you to look at but if you read the whole, the truth is there. 

They even shared a notice from Sept 2018 that I didn’t write and you can tell. I always signed my name on all letters and notices I did. This one even states “the building staff, and property owners, are available”.  If Kory & Allison Read bothered to comprehend these things he may have noticed the difference. They also share a letter where I give the info for the company of Alto Properties Inc and it clearly states at the bottom that “you should not copy it, forward it, or use it for any purpose or disclose the contents to any person.”  Yet, here Kory & Allison Read share it online for anyone looking to see. I put that privacy notice on the bottom for this specific purpose, so it wouldn’t be shared. Now they broke the privacy laws of Ontario! See what I mean about boundaries and not having any care about crossing them? 

Why would anyone believe a word coming out of Kory & Allison Read when they have shown to not respect anyone else’s personal boundaries and that of morality? They have no morals if they are able to smear people as they are online in these sites in such a manner. 

We are ONLY a TOOL or an OBSTACLE to a Narcissist – it is ALWAYS and ONLY about what they want and when you don’t provide it you will see the true psychopathy of their rage and annihilation of your life and world – especially if you call them out for their deception. A Narcissist intentionally smears the reputation of anybody that has any personal connection to them because we ALL have an expiration date with them based on a particular need or something they want from us! Once they are done they need to silence us by trying to destroy our reputation!

So much truth in these words. NOBODY can understand how the Narcissist weaves little bits of truth from KNOWING us into horrendous and slanderous lies to use against a target/victim that has caught onto their delusional world. They have purposely accumulated so much information from our personal connection with them and they mean to distort that information and turn it against us WHEN THEY NEED TO. That is what can make their stories SEEM somewhat true to the listener because they personalize it with real information that was totally distorted! Remember they are shrewd manipulators and liars and have been acting out against their victims ALL of their lives so they are pros at this. Never put anything past them when you have seen through their façade – they will fiercely protect themselves and fight dirty. Otherwise they will be outed as the abuser they really are and they cannot ever allow that!

So then, what is the kiss of death to a predator like the Narcissist, EXPOSURE because it’s like a repellant that warns new and potential prey (supply) to mistrust and run away from the Narcissist! So with this in mind a Narcissist lives in constant fear of people finding out that they are a wolf behind sheep’s clothing, or they ONLY use ALL people, they want to take away or extort everything that you have that they don’t have, and they will vandalize your reputation/integrity and good image to improve their own – they malign all people – especially when you uncover their motives. They live in the constant fear of ANYBODY learning the shocking truth about their past exploits, or the many other people they have intentionally destroyed. They also live in constant fear of people discovering what they do in the shadows or their immoral and perverse world and the many ‘others’ they participate with regularly because they MUST maintain that moral façade.

So what a Narcissist puts into motion is pathological — treating us like dirt and maligning us behind our backs to control and destroy us because in time we realize the truth so they MUST destroy us first to escape exposure of who and what they are. This is seriously WRONG and distorted beyond any words I can convey because they lure us into their world with false emotions so they can extort whatever it is they need from us – and then as if to add insult to the injury they are going to seriously try to silence us AND destroy us so they can move on to their next target. They are predators that are pre-loaded with delusion, psychopathy, and abuse. This seriously puts Narcissists in their own special class with Psychopaths or like a branch from the same Psychopath tree. The class of people who don’t wish you or any other human being any sense of well-being, no matter what or how friendly, caring or loving you are. This is the same class of predators as physical, sexual or ANY other kind of abusive predator and Narcissists are just as dangerous. Seriously we MUST internalize that Narcissists really are predators and dangerous, but many people just don’t appreciate the true meaning or the reality of Narcissistic abuse or see it as destructive as it is to people, families, organizations, or anybody that has any connection to a Narcissist. NO/minimal contact to get completely away from these abusers. Greg


I just read another great article on shock tactics used by Bullies like Kory & Allison Read, as I shared on these pages. I see so much of my own experience in these articles online! I found myself many times shaking my head in amazement over their imagination in the content on the various sites they have had. Now, Kory & Allison Read are wasting their time re-doing the content and that’s okay. 

Narcissistic shock tactics that they use to confound, confuse, and traumatize. How many times have you found yourself shaking your head in complete amazement AND confusion at what the Narcissist has just said to you? How many times have you been so shocked with things they have said that are the direct opposite of what you know they have said, or maybe what YOU have said, or something that is an outright LIE? How many times have you tried to rationalize through their constant maze of chaos? How many times you seen bright red flags that gave you that sense that something is terribly wrong with this person? Let’s RESOLVE this with truth and clarity and purge it out of our hearts and heads – there is something wrong with this person.

With abusive and high-conflict individuals (Narcissists) there is no truth, reality, compromise or understanding which equates to absolutely NO EMPATHY, care, or truth on their part as long as it serves them. With a Narcissist there is merely a pattern of distortion and manipulation of facts/reality with a delusionary design or spin. What that interprets into for their target/victim is emotional and psychological terrorism and abuse. THIS WAS NEVER about you or anything YOU did – this is about the pathological person/Narcissist standing in front of you. They are like poison to all people!

Ambiguity, lies, and deception are a coward’s tool in re-writing reality, but the Narcissist also does this with an agenda in mind and that is to secure a steady base of SUPPLY! They feed off of our lives, pretend to be something to us when they are NOTHING, steal from us, backstab us to create chaos ALL AROUND our lives, live a perverse lifestyle while they are pretending to be someone special in our lives, then blame and shame us into believing we are the PROBLEM and even take it to the point of convincing us we are mentally ill or insane on top of it all, and finally they smear our good name and integrity!


http://narcissisticandemotionalabuse.co.uk/category/articles/

EDUCATING SOCIETY ABOUT EMOTIONAL ABUSE IS PARAMOUNT

 December 23, 2018  Admin

During these past few years I have been in touch with thousands of people whose lives have been shattered by emotional abuse.  Some of this abuse has come from within the family unit, from people who should have had their back but instead were the ones holding the knife.  Others have experienced abuse from ‘friends’ (I use that term lightly) or within the workplace.  Regardless of where this abuse comes from, the effects can be absolutely devastating.  To add to the pain that each and every one has suffered, these people often reach out to friends, family or professionals only to find that they are not believed or that the abuse they endured, is played down and considered trivial because there are no visible marks or scars.  This invalidation adds further pain to the individual who has suffered more than enough.

Unfortunately, people who have not experienced emotional abuse, have little understanding of the devastation caused by this form of maltreatment.  Sadly, this applies to many psychologists and therapists whose knowledge of Narcissistic Personality Disorder is somewhat limited.  These counsellors can do more harm than good.  In the cases of couples counselling, the therapist is often taken in by the narcissist and blames the target, not the perpetrator.  Narcissists are pathological liars who show no emotion when lying which is why they are so often believed.  They will also tell the truth in misleading ways giving the therapist an incorrect perspective, for example, telling part of a story where they talk about your behaviour, leaving out their provocation that made you react to their abuse.

‘In order for couples counselling to be successful, both partners must be willing to take responsibility for their actions and make adjustments to their behaviour.  Abusive people want all the power and control in the relationship and will focus on maintaining that imbalance, even if it means continuing unhealthy and hurtful behaviour patterns.  Many callers to the Hotline have related stories of trying and ‘failing’ at couples counselling because of an abusive partner’s focus on manipulating the sessions to place blame, minimize the abuse and attempt to win over the therapist to their side.’  (The National Domestic Violence Hotline)

It is imperative, when searching for a therapist or counsellor, that you ascertain they understand this dynamic and are up to speed on the subject of NPD.  There are many excellent counsellors out there.  Make sure you engage the help of the right one.

It is estimated that one in three targets of abuse will develop PTSD as a result of what was done to them. This is treatable with the correct help and support. Please click here for  more information on PTSD.

Society in general needs to be educated about narcissism, including therapists, law enforcement officers, judges, attorneys, and barristers.  Sometimes their lack of knowledge and understanding of malignant narcissism results in a target of such abuse being further abused by the judicial system or counsellors who are supposed to help them.  The uneducated tend to think that a narcissist is someone who loves themselves and have no insight into the long term psychological damage these people often cause.  This disorder goes way beyond selfishness and self-love, in fact, narcissists are often plagued with self-loathing and self-doubt. Although this type of personality frequently displays an air of grandiosity and arrogance, behind the false exterior there often lies a vulnerability and such a very fragile ego.  Their overreaction to some perceived slight can be absolutely devastating to those they target.

Professionals and the general public need to educate themselves on terms such as:

GASLIGHTING which is an insidious process which occurs over a period of time resulting in the person being gaslighted questioning their own reality and/or sanity. Please click here for more information on Gaslighting.

PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE BEHAVIOUR such as the silent treatment which is a favourite tactic of an abuser where all attempts at communication are met with deadly silence.  Please click here more information on The Silent Treatment.

Experts throughout the world use criteria in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM) which is published by the American Psychiatric Association, to diagnose mental health conditions such as NPD.

The Mayo Clinic sets out the criteria from the DSM-5 criteria for narcissistic personality disorder:

  • Having an exaggerated sense of self-importance.
  • Expecting to be recognized as superior even without achievements that warrant it.
  • Exaggerating your achievements and talents.
  • Being preoccupied with fantasies about success, power, brilliance, beauty or the perfect mate.
  • Believing that you are superior and can only be understood by or associate with equally special people.
  • Requiring constant admiration.
  • Having a sense of entitlement.
  • Expecting special favours and unquestioning compliance with your expectations.
  • Taking advantage of others to get what you want.
  • Having an inability or unwillingness to recognize the needs and feelings of others.
  • Being envious of others and believing others envy you.
  • Behaving in an arrogant or haughty manner.

Diagnosis is by trained mental health professionals.  To be diagnosed with the rather unflattering label of Narcissistic Personality Disorder, one must possess at least five of the traits mentioned.  A common and very important trait, which is not mentioned in this list, is that of little or no empathy.  There are many who believe that as this is such a key aspect in people with NPD that it should have been included in the diagnostic criteria.

Many people have no understanding of why someone would remain in a relationship with someone who is abusive either emotionally or physically.  Some well-intentioned individuals will ask questions like, ‘Why did you not just leave?’  If only it was a simple as that.  Targets of abuse may be beaten down over time with neither the desire nor strength to fight.  They may be tied to their abuser by a psychological phenomenon known Trauma Bonding.  Please click here for more information on Trauma Bonding.

People need to understand that recovering from narcissistic abuse is a lengthy process.  Never put a time limit on your recovery.  For some, this will take two or three years but sadly for many, much longer.  Give time, plenty of time.  Education is a key part in recovery.  No blame should be placed on a target of abuse. There is light at the end of this long, dark tunnel.  We just need to know how to switch it on.

Written by Anne McCrea

References

Mayo Clinic Staff, (2014), Mayo Clinic: Narcissistic Personality Disorder, [Online], accessed Feb 2016.

The National Domestic Violence Hotline, (2014), Why We Don’t Recommend Couples Counselling for Abusive Relationships [Online], accessed December 2018.


https://cyberbullying.org/advice-for-adult-victims-of-cyberbullying/

https://www.overcomebullying.org/cyberbullying.html

Cyberbullying does not just apply to children. There are adult groups dedicated to harassing and defaming others as well, along with websites created online specifically to make fun of and demean individuals.


https://www.overcomebullying.org/cyber-bullying.html

Cyber bullies, like any bully, want to feel power and control over their victim. They want to get under their victim’s skin.Cyberbullies have created websites dedicated to insulting, mocking and humiliating their prey in the most vicious way possible.With digital video becoming ubiquitous beatings are now digitally recorded and uploaded so everyone can have a front row seat and the bloodlust can be enjoyed again and again.How can cyber bullies be so heartless? Perhaps the internet lends itself to this indifference. Bullies don’t have to see their victims or answer for their actions. Like the cowards they are they hide behind their computers and smartphones – behind a veil of anonymity.Remember, bullies often suffer from low self-esteem and they want to feel better about themselves. Instead of doing something positive or succeeding at something or making a new friend a bully has learned to make themselves feel better by controlling, abusing and tearing down others. This gives them a sense of control and power they don’t have in their lives. Most bullies are actually quite weak and the same is true of cyber bullies.Bullies are hoping to get you upset so you slip up and make a mistake. Don’t send flames and don’t get into flame wars. (Flames are nasty, sometimes threatening emails.).


https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/counseling-keys/201403/how-handle-crazymaker

There is no rhyme, reason, or emotional understanding with a crazymaker. Worse, when the behavior is stealthy and confusing, it becomes easy to feel crazy. It feels like you’re caught in a whirlwind of chaos, with the life force being sucked from you as you are manipulated with nonstop crazymaking tactics. 

The Top 3 Crazymaker Types

Narcissists. The granddaddy of all crazymakers. Narcissists cannot empathize with anyone, meaning they cannot relate to your feelings. They only feel their own wants and needs. They are emotionally stunted, like a perpetually demanding 2-year-old. It is always about them. However, they can be extremely charming and charismatic, as they have learned how to be the greatest sales people to get their needs met. They can charm and mimic compassion for brief moments in order to get their needs satisfied. They expect only the best and can be the most materialistic—demanding trophy-relationships, endless objects of success, only well-known acquaintances, top-notch services, lavish vacations, etc. They have disdain for emotions in others and often think even less of people close to them. They try to control everyone around them and will use every available tactic to gain control. Many high-ranking executives are narcissists and consequently tend to create a narcissistic culture in their company or division.

I just read this article and wanted to share. Such powerful words written here! 

There are so many articles like these and I wish I could share them all! They are so helpful for people like me whom are struggling to recover from such verbal abuse as I am from Bullies like Kory & Allison Read.

I shared enough for you to see the truth in their own words. I need show nothing else than their own written documents, emails, and letters for people to see that Kory Read & Allison Read are Smearing me online in their websites to try and ruin my life. It all just plain old revenge for their eviction! 

https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/bullying/how-to-handle-adult-bullying/

Types Of Adult Bullies

First and foremost comes the Narcissistic adult bully. Narcissists who choose to bully other adults do so because they lack empathy or fear of adverse repercussions. Furthermore, they generally struggle with self-esteem issues, hence their compulsion to constantly denigrate other people. People who truly love themselves don’t have to tear others down to feel superior. Narcissists will try to prove how secure they are, although, their mistreatment of others speaks volumes every time.

Verbal adult bullies tend to use their words to belittle their victims. It’s important not to minimize the impacts of verbal bullying simply because these impacts are not tangible. Words are very powerful, and they can ruin reputations, careers, inner self-worth, and other things which someone may have going for themselves. A notable amount of verbal adult bullies spread rumors, gossip about them behind their backs, and otherwise, use words to be mean and hurtful.

Handling Bullying If You Are The Bully

If you happen to be the perpetrator of adult bullying, it’s critical for you to know that what you are doing is not OK. Regardless of what your reasons or motivations may be, targeting someone and mistreating them is never an appropriate course of action. What you are doing is hurting another human being. If you are bullying someone, the first thing you should do is immediately stop what you are doing.

The compulsion to bully others is very troubling and disturbing. This could be a sign of an unresolved, underlying issue, or a problem which is happening in your personal life. Regardless of the problem, becoming an adult bully is never OK or acceptable. For this reason, you might consider working with a professional therapist. A mental health therapist can truly help you heal as an individual and deal with your problems which may be causing you to lash out at others.


Some new links to great articles I found online!

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/behind-the-narcissist-mask-the-bully-coward-liar_b_58cb25d5e4b0e0d348b341d4?fbclid=IwAR3LP1qHDmQ38D8RivKFbmTGTF2FSBqFXzBRKn_SpeV3zaU473E0GbeenKQ

Behind the Narcissist Mask: The Bully, Coward, Liar and Fraud

Narcissists are classic bullies. They ambush, attack without cause, and prey on the most vulnerable within their grasp, usually those who love and depend on them, namely their spouse and children, who as a result carry lasting emotional and physiological trauma.

Narcissists often also abuse employees, susceptible friends, and “underlings” such as waiters and clerks. Exploiting their power over others in any way possible feeds their endless need to feel superior, and their lack of empathy gives them free range to abuse without the troubling hindrance of a conscience.

Deceitful people will never admit to any wrongdoing. They’ll never stop to think and reflect on their own actions. They’ll never understand that they are the ones that need to change their ways. Because they are not mature enough for that.

And no matter how hard you try to win an argument with them, the reality is that you’ll never come out on top.

Because they will do whatever it takes to prove they aren’t to blame. They’ll try any dirty trick at their disposal to twist the truth.

You can shout at them, curse, them, or shower them with facts – but none of this will make a difference. Because they’re experts at reality distortion. They are masters at giving new meanings to words. They’re professionals at making other people doubt their own sense of logic and reality.


Below I share some links to various websites I have accessed during my recovery over the past couple of years. There is so much more than I can share here but at least you will get an idea of where I am coming from and some of the articles that have greatly helped me understand what I was experiencing. No one can really know how it feels to be the victim of such a smear campaign as what is going on about me online unless you have experienced something similar, but you can gain an understanding and experience empathy. 

The more I read, and was told by others I spoke too, the more I was able to see the patterns in the various documents and actions of Kory & Allison Read. I actually went back and re-read a lot of it and was able to see it more clearly and it helped quite a bit. 

I have read so much information on Bullies, Smear Campaigns, and Narcissism that I know this situation will never happen to me again, as I now know what to look for, and I am a much stronger person.

The main thing I learned: 

Total strangers have no reason to make and post websites about someone else, like what Kory & Allison Read have done. Kory & Allison Read are not family, nor friends, to any of the individuals named on these websites online and there is no excuse to write as if he is. As strangers to me, he cannot know what I am thinking at any time, as he tries to convey in his voluminous documents. He even tries to tell me how to do my job in some places. I got so sick of seeing the words “it appears” basically before every sentence as I knew Kory Read was going to follow it with his opinion once again. It was all wrong! 


https://zvulony.ca/2010/articles/defamation-articles/definition-defamation/

What is Cyber-Libel?

Cyber-libel is when someone has posted or emailed something that is untrue and damaging about you on the internet.  The internet has created the easy ability for almost anybody to communicate with almost anyone.  This ability has a dark side – the average person’s reputation or a small business’s hard-earned goodwill can be harmed in a serious way.

Unfortunately, cyber-libel is becoming more common.  In the past, only famous people had libel and slander issues.  Today, it is the common person who must deal with this issue.  For example, a disgruntled consumer, an angry ex-spouse, a competitor, or a peddler of gossip can now “vent” their frustrations about their victim cheaply, easily, and seemingly anonymously.  A Google search of the victim’s name usually reveals the poisonous words for anyone that is interested.

The harm to reputation and character is real.  A malicious customer review by a competitor could destroy a small business.  A false accusation of adultery on a social networking site could destroy a marriage.  An allegation that someone is a “crook” could be read by a potential employer or business partner.


After the grand finale with a Narcissist expect a smear campaign to occur. A smear campaign is pretty much what it sounds like – they are going to smear your name to your friends and family and try to do it first so that they come off looking like a victim instead of the nasty inhuman that they are. In this video I will explain the process and hopefully through my story give you some ideas on how to protect yourself, how to react, how to deal with the hurt and additional abuse of now having to defend your honor when it was them who was a horrible person.

Smear campaigns are a method of damage control that narcissists implement when they know they have been found out. A common smear campaign might involve portraying the former victim as some sort of crazy, bipolar, addict, alcoholic, unstable, good digger, thief, cheater, or bad parent. By creating a series of lies, exaggerations, half-truths, suspicions and false allegations about the victim’s behavior these serve to undermine the victim’s credibility and sanity. Reasons, why a smear campaign works so well to harm the victim, is: The victim loses trust in all friends and loses their support system, they become isolated, fearful and don’t know where to turn. Think of this as a ‘sorting hat’, from Harry Potter, this will be the weeding out of true friends and people you didn’t need in your life anymore.


https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/leaving-person-with-narcissism-here-comes-smear-campaign-0920174





https://bullyonline.org/index.php

To work out if you’re being bullied, it’s a good idea to collect together information about your experience, including notes about the way it made you feel. As soon as you think you might be being bullied, start documenting the experience, recording who said or did what to whom, why and when. If you have not been doing that up to now, it’s time to write down everything you can remember, using emails, messages, calendar entries and what have you, to build a time frame and supporting evidence.

Get a definition of bullying you can understand. We say that Bullying is conduct that cannot be objectively justified by a reasonable code of conduct, and whose likely or actual cumulative effect is to threaten, undermine, constrain, humiliate or harm another person or their property, reputation, self-esteem, self-confidence or ability to perform.

Consider how your experience fits with the definition. If there are many incidents, what happened? Could it be justified by a reasonable code of conduct? In other words, if you were accused of misconduct, do you think that your accuser had genuine grounds to believe that you had done whatever it was? Was there clear evidence that you were innocent? Was the evidence overlooked? If there was more than one incident, where each was tolerable in isolation, were they collectively more serious? How did the conduct affect you? Was it threatening, explicitly or implicitly? How did you feel about it, and so on.

Accusing someone of bullying is a serious matter that should not be done without very good reason. If your experience seems aligned with the descriptions on this website, it makes sense to spend some time checking your account and considering other possible explanations of what has happened. This can be difficult: If you’re being being psychologically manipulated and feeling guilty about things that are not your fault, or if you’re worried about the futility or danger of taking action against a known abuser, then you might jump to some other conclusion. On the other hand, even if you’re initially sure that you’re being treated unfairly, it’s important to take some time considering the possibility that you might be mistaken. If someone has treated you badly, have you made allowances for the way they behaved? Were they having an uncharacteristically bad day? Has this happened before? Is there a worrying pattern to their behaviour?


The manipulative leaders of narcissistic conspiracies find ways to covertly abuse the victim so they can escape accountability for their actions. The victim is made to feel like and look like the “crazy” one – and everyone is able to avoid individual responsibility for inflicting harm and participating in the conspiracy.


The Smear Campaign ~ View it as a badge of honor! Don’t let them bring you down, you’re too damned beautiful, courageous, intellegent and strong.  

When healthy people feel upset about something, they may get angry. But toxic people don’t just get mad – they seethe – and wage a devious smear campaign.  One of the clearest indicators you’ve got a mentally unstable person on your hands is smear campaigning. Smear campaigners carefully and strategically use lies, exaggerations, suspicions and false accusations to try destroying your credibility. They hide behind a cloak of upstanding heroism and feigned innocence in an attempt to make as many people as possible think their efforts are based not on their vindictiveness, but on upstanding concern.

As a smeared person, what you are most likely “guilty” of is saying no to someone who is, in some way, failing to respect your boundaries, refusing to follow the same rules as everyone else, or someone who is spreading toxicity and manipulating. Someone entitled. Someone sneaky and vindictive. Someone who is hurting you or taking too much.


https://www.inc.com/jessica-stillman/10-popular-techniques-used-by-manipulators-and-how-to-fight-them.html



 Spotting a Bully: Patterns of Behavior

When someone snaps at you or ignores you because they are under Pressure or in a bad mood, that is not bullying. Bullying involves persistent, abusive, and frightening behavior designed to make the target feel upset, humiliated, and threatened. The following profile fits most bullies:

•Blames others for errors.

•Makes unreasonable demands

•Criticizes the work ability of others in front of others

•Inconsistent enforcement of arbitrary rules.

•Threats of job loss, insults and put downs.

•Downplays or denies accomplishments.

•Social exclusion.

•Yells and screams at target, often in front of others.

•Takes credit for another person’s work.

•Women are targets of men 69% of the time.

•Women are targets of women eight to one times more often than men are.


A Bully Often

• Seeks to dominate and/or manipulate others.

• Enjoys feeling powerful and in control (whether real

or not).

• Is both a poor winner (boastful and arrogant) and a

poor loser.

• Seems to derive satisfaction from other’s fears,

discomfort or pain.

• Is good at hiding behaviors or doing them where those

in authority can’t notice

• Is excited by conflicts between others.

• Blames others for his/her problems.

• Displays uncontrolled anger (rage).

• May have a history of discipline problems.

• Displays a pattern of impulsive and aggressive behaviors.

• Displays intolerance

• May use drugs, alcohol or be recovering from the consumption/withdrawal

• Lacks empathy towards others


Bullying is Different from Harassment

Harassment is one type of illegal discrimination and is defined as offensive and unwelcome conduct; serious enough to adversely affect the terms and conditions of a person’s employment, which occurs because of the person’s protected

class, and can be imputed to the employer. Protected classes in employment are race/color, creed (religion), national origin, sex, marital status, disability, HIV/AIDS or Hepatitis C status, sexual orientation/gender identity, and honourably discharged veterans and military status.

An example of harassment could be when an employee tells racist jokes and refers to a particular co-worker or group of co-workers by using racial slurs, and after a complaint, the employer does nothing to stop the behavior. Another example of harassment could be a male manager who makes unwelcome sexual suggestions to a female employee and touches her inappropriately.

Bullying, on the other hand, is often directed at someone a bully feels threatened by. The target often doesn’t even realize when they are being bullied because the behavior is covert, through trivial criticisms and isolating actions that occur behind closed doors. While harassment is illegal; bullying in the workplace is not.


Someone Being Bullied Often

• Withdraws socially; has few or no friends.

• Feels isolated, alone and sad.

• Feels picked on or persecuted.

• Feels rejected and not liked.

• Frequently complains of illness.

• Doesn’t want to go to work or school

• Displays mood swings and talks

about hopelessness.

• Talks about leaving; talks of suicide.

• Threatens violence to self and others.

• Changes in eating or sleeping patterns.

• May takes, or attempt to take, “protection” to work or school

• Displays “victim” body language—hangs head,

What Can A Person Do?

• Leave your emotions at the door.

• State your position respectfully, factually.

• Do not take a bully’s behavior personally.

• Try to clarify what the other is really saying by using mirroring.

• Make no assumptions.

• Ask questions and stay calm until you understand.

• Build trust by agreeing with the other.

• Alert the other to any problem you foresee.

• Do your homework and be well prepared before you talk.

• If the other has lost self control, politely excuse yourself to go to the bathroom so he/she can calm down.

• Agree to do what the person is asking if not illegal or unethical.


https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Smear_campaign

A smear campaign is an intentional, premeditated effort to undermine an individual’s or group’s reputation, credibility, and character. Like negative campaigning, most often smear campaigns target government officials, politicians, political candidates, and other public figures. However, private persons or groups may also become targets of smear campaigns perpetrated in companies, institutions, the legal system, and other formal groups.

Smear tactics differ from normal discourse or debate in that they do not bear upon the issues or arguments in question. A smear is a simple attempt to malign a group or an individual with the aim of undermining their credibility.

Smears often consist of ad hominem attacks in the form of unverifiable rumours and distortions, half-truths, or even outright lies; smear campaigns are often propagated by gossip magazines. Even when the facts behind a smear campaign are demonstrated to lack proper foundation, the tactic is often effective because the target’s reputation is tarnished before the truth is known.

Smear campaigns can also be used as a campaign tactic associated with tabloid journalism, which is a type of journalism that presents little well-researched news and instead uses eye-catching headlines, scandal-mongering and sensationalism. For example, during Gary Hart’s 1988 presidential campaign (see below), the New York Post reported on its front page big, black block letters: “GARY: I’M NO WOMANIZER.”[3][4]

Smears are also effective in diverting attention away from the matter in question and onto a specific individual or group. The target of the smear typically must focus on correcting the false information rather than on the original issue.

Deflection has been described as a wrap-up smear: “You make up something. Then you have the press write about it. And then you say, everybody is writing about this charge”.[5]

Smear tactics are considered by many to be a low, disingenuous form of discourse; they are nevertheless very common.